Ladies, am I the only one?

Question

All my life I wanted a hero, somebody I could wholeheartedly admire and adore…but recently I have noticed that I crave passion & intimacy in my life however a man is absent, there are a couple that I talk to sometimes but I never take it far with any of them in fear that I will be used because they have girls they talk to & I don’t want to be one of them. I want it to be exclusive and unique. I stare temptation in the face a lot and I always turn the other way because I like to believe I will KNOW when the right one comes along. But I am starting to second guess my judgment. I am 23 years old, I work and drive….I have no children. Are there other women that share the same experiences?

Answer 1

You need to stop analyzing everything in your path! You need to let things ride on their own, b/c how do you know that you haven't missed the "right" moment, if you're brushing all of them off?

The best things in life, happen unexpectedly. The worst moments in peoples lives, are usually planned.

Answer 2

When I look into your eyes
I can see a love restrained
But darlin' when I hold you
Don't you know I feel the same

'Cause nothin' lasts forever
And we both know hearts can change
And it's hard to hold a candle
In the cold November rain

We've been through this auch a long long time
Just tryin' to kill the pain

But lovers always come and lovers always go
An no one's really sure who's lettin' go today
Walking away

If we could take the time to lay it on the line
I could rest my head. Just knowin' that you were mine
All mine

So if you want to love me
then darlin' don't refrain
Or I'll just end up walkin'
In the cold November rain

Do you need some time...on your own
Do you need some time...all alone
Everybody needs some time...on their own
Don't you know you need some time...all alone

I know it's hard to keep an open heart
When even friends seem out to harm you
But if you could heal a broken heart
Wouldn't time be out to charm you

Sometimes I need some time...on my own
Sometimes I need some time...all alone
Everybody needs some time...on their own
Don't you know you need some time...all alone

And when your fears subside
And shadows still remain
I know that you can love me
When there's no one left to blame

So never mind the darkness
We still can find a way
'Cause nothin' lasts forever
Even cold November rain

Don't ya think that you need somebody
Don't ya think that you need someone
Everybody needs somebody
You're not the only one
You're not the only one

im sure u mustav listened 2 this song before....try listenin again....i really hope it helps u.....coz remember a wrong advice. ill make it more complicated.......but in this sad pathetic world only the shrewd ones survive better ...the innocent always end up gettin hurt..

Answer 3

I think we all look for some one we could admire and adore. And no doubt we all crave passion and intimacy. Some of us get caught up looking for it in all the wrong places and end up being used and abused. So your taking a good approach in safe guarding your self. No one but you will know when the time is rite and who is rite for you. Just as when your were learning to walk there may be stumbles and falls, but everything is a learning experience and chalk it up to experience. You sound like you can take care of your self. No you are not alone

Answer 4

i feel the same although i am not ur age. Have u gone to college? there might be some people there for u to meet. i think that finding the right one all starts with finding him.... u cant get anywhere if u dont know where he is. so this is what i would do. go out to a place where there are allot of ppls (not a club cause i think that will only turn u on for a second and then turn u down again in a heart beat... i dont think the man of ur dreams who would be good to u would be there.) Go to the mall or starbucks or a bowling alley and theres ppls there. or go to a city or something idk u get the idea. i dont know what ur social situation is but u need to go out and populate urself where there are guys around and then u can talk to them or waite for them to aproach u. bottom line.... go find a new crowed of men

Answer 5

Luna look at yourself? You are beautiful and attractive. Just not discovered yet. Like an Emerald. Did you know it is harder to find and mind and emerald than a diamond? I have been looking more then 16 years for "that one". And there are many times I wished I had her to share moments I considered special with. But you have to have a foundation in a relationship that extends further than the door of the master bedroom. I have seen so many enslaving themselves in a bad relationship it is sad. Why have someone when you can not speak with them without getting pelted with insults or spiraling into an argument? If I had to cringe every time I seen my front door because I knew there was going to be a big blow out before the night was over. I do not care to be there or with her. Go for quality over quantity.

Answer 6

Yep, Im 25. I've noticed the same thing. I was seeing this guy until recently who says that he was a good friend of mine. But the reason I cut him off was because I'll be moving into a new place on Fri. and my "friend" didnt even bother to ask if I needed any help, thats what a friend would do right? He's not the kinda friend I want nor need in my life right now...at all. but all the other guys who dont even say that they are my friends offered to help w/my move.

Answer 7

The only problem that I see with what your looking for is that when a woman is looking for a hero, she will tend to put that man on a pedestal. And her expectation level might to be to much for one to bear. I think a man who marries a woman just for her looks can be the same way. I think they call that a trophy wife.

Try to stop turning away from temptation. Live your life and have some fun.

Answer 8

you're only 23, but "time's a wasting" - dive in there and take a chance - when i was your age i was like you and let many an opportunity with men slip by, because of the same reasons as you & fear of being hurt. i ended up being married for 22 years and recently got divorced - if i had done things differently at your age maybe that would not have happened. i would definitely take more risks in my love life if i were you - what's the worse that can happen - you heart may break, but that's what taking a chance at love is all about.

Answer 9

You will find the right person for you. I have felt the same way before. And I even screwed up and married 2of the guys I thought I loved and thought they loved and cared about me. But I got out. And I am much better. But now I have truly met my soul mate. He is the one I am supposed to be with. Since our first date we have not went a day without seeing eachother. We moved in together so we could spend more time together. And he takes care of me. No guy has ever tried or wanted or wanted to do that. He proposed to me and it caught me off gaurd, I think it caught him off gaurd. But he meant it. I let it go when he said it. But later I confronted him about it. And yes, I do have a ring. We can't seem to spend enough time together. We have such a strong connection.

Answer 10

Your predicament is close to mine, except for me not being a woman. But I've decided to believe when the right person comes along I will know, and I will go for her. Until then, I make friends and talk to them, always searching, always waiting. Sometimes I wish I was a poet so I could describe it better :)

Good luck in your search. But be sure that you aren't the only one. You may be in a minority, but it is a good minority to be a part of :)