Imagine if ur life partner doesnt satify your needs and is not the way you want him to be then what would you do
2006-08-29 02:25:07 · 10 answers · asked by Don 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
One important thing everybody should do is always try to understand your partnet before marriage itself. its always bette rto have a opentalk. there is no problem in it. you both are going to marry and live the whole life. better dont marry if there is anything which is not adjustable.
If problems after marriage speak out your problems to your partner. always communication gap will be the mail villain. if then also things wont get clear...go for a counselling....
but above all you both should have a good feeling for each other...
All the best..
2006-08-29 03:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by menon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't a quick fix for any problems. The problems you had before marriage are still going bto be there.
You both need to communicate honestly and maturely with the other party, and you both need to be honest with yourself. Get help if you need it, and work together as a team.
A couple books for you both to read and discuss:
-Gary Chapman: Five Love Languages for Couples
-Dave Ramsey: Total Money Makeover
Work on it, and also make sure that you each remain independent in some way.
2006-08-29 11:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm not married yet, but my partner and I are currently living together. I have to say, it's quite difficult at first because my expectations are high and my background is quite different from my partner. I'm a clean freak and a perfectionist while my partner is "messy marvin". Even my set of conservative and well-to-do friends are different from my partner's artists and musician friends. Think Tony Blair meets Grace Jones.
Aside from our petty differences, every week we encounter problems arising from miscommunication. I think we could improve our relationship if we actively listen and understand each others needs.
What I'm trying to say is we have to work out our differences.
2006-08-29 10:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work on it, go to counselling etc. You said "life partner" and that is exactly what you need to remember, life. There was something that made you fall in love in the first place. There was something that made you commit for life so find it again. People change, married couples are not the same they were when they met, when they got married and 5, 10, 20 years later, you grow, you change and you WORK on it.
Best luck!
2006-08-29 09:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage/relationships are about compromise, working together for the good of each other. And rarely does one person dovetail perfectly with another. It is the willingness to do what it takes to meet the needs of the other; unless it is unlawful or immoral. Alot problems can be worked out if both are open & honest with themselves & each other.
2006-08-29 09:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be healthy, if both parties are willing to continue making the effort to compromise. It will not work if you stop talking to each other, and start letting the resentment build up. Once it gets to that stage a relate councillor may be able to help.
2006-08-29 11:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce? i assume that obviously do not like that idea or else you won't have post this question. communication is the key to all successful relationships and in order to make a marriage work, it takes both of you to work on it and compromise to fit one another. so very often when you are in the heat of passion you'll tend to overlook the flaws in the other person. but when feelings start to fade, you'll begin to find that this person whom you once felt that you love, seems next to impossible.
2006-08-29 11:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by dreamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apart from counselling etc if hes/she is not the way you want them why be with them , you cant change people and you fell in love with them because of who they were not because you can change them . talk to them maybe they are feeling abit neglected or maybe the same way as you
2006-08-29 10:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by nobody's perfect ..01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out amongst yourselves and see what you can accomplish together. Maybe it would help to speak with a therapist.
2006-08-29 09:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your life partner isn't what you want, then apparently s/he isn't your life partner, and the marriage should be ended.
2006-08-29 09:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋