Is this normal or am i weird ...?

Question

Hi i am in my early 20s.. and i am kinda tall and fat.... not handsome looking... I try my very best to behave like normal male by wooing other gals and all.. untill today. One of my friend questioned me after commenting about a girl, asking me "You think you are handsome? See if you can get married or not". He was a Handsome lad so i couldnt talk back. I was really hurt by those word. but it got me into thinking too... i only had a 2 month relationship and never had a partner after that... am i that ugly.. or is it just my low esteem... i have never groomed myself.. I am really worried and sad.. every single day i sit down staring at the roof of my room and crying in my heart... and asking god why has he created me this way.. i am really yearning for true love.. which i couldnt find... what am i to do?

Answer 1

Come on..You wanna know the truth? We gals like guys with confidence, not looks..even the ugliest guy will have a gf when he behaves confidently and talk confidently..so now what you should do is to be confident with yourself...
Don't worry about no one would wants you..gals of the older age like me i'm in mid 20s actually will go for guys with confidence and personaility...
That lad who tease on you is merely a loser...Don't be bothered with him..He sound like a loser to me..i wont be with a guy like his character...too self-centred.

Answer 2

Maybe you were created this way so that you would have to work on whats inside. Those other guys, handsome they may be, are complete *** holes and only dumb shallow girls go for them. You need to work on your self esteem. Let your personality really show through to the girls you talk to. And don't hit on the same cookie cutter girls. Try hitting on the artistic ones. They are the ones that really know what to look for in a guy. Some of the best boyfriends I've had have been unattractive but they really made me laugh and that's what matters. If you don't have self esteem just fake it until you look back and realize you have it. You could always groom what you have on top of working on the inside. The better you can make yourself look on the outside will give off a better first impression. And if you can come up with an opening line that makes a girl laugh and see who you really are, you are in! Good luck and don't be down on yourself. You may be less attractive then those other guys, but that can change. They will always be losers because its who they are on the inside.

Answer 3

Look fellow…
If the person who gave you that silly comment knows what the meaning of life is, he wouldn’t say such a thing. But any how, I’m not trying to make you feel good only, but I’ll say the truth which you should keep in your mind and never let go of.

Life is a challenge. If people are able to fly, they wouldn’t invent air crafts. If all ladies were 100% beautiful, no one would ever invent make up….
The harder you life is, the more success you will be achieving down the road.
A 100% good looking male will depend on his look 100%, but whenever he loses that look, he loses everything. But a 45% good looking man will try to balance that with maybe 20% attitude, 25% honesty…etc. which will make him a perfect man from outside and inside as well. Those who are looking for a long relationship will look at both sides, in and out. But if a person is looking for a one night stand (a fast relationship), then he/she will only care about the outer look. And then he will be called “externalist”.

Cheers

Answer 4

God didn't create you that way, you did. Take the blame for your behavior, that's what grown ups do.

Then do something about it. Instead of crying yourself to sleep, get up and take a shower. If you don't know how to fix your hair, then go to a barber and ask for suggestions and follow them.

Start walking, its a great way to exercise that almost anyone can do, and it will help you drop some weight since you think you are fat.

Take up a hobby or some sort of passion that you can share with someone else. Communication is where a relationship starts and you have to have some common ground.

If you don't know how to treat a lady, and are unsure of your manners, then seek out a class or school that can do just that. If you can't do that, you obviously have a computer, check it out online.

Grow up, take care of yourself, make yourself worth knowing and start treating women with respect. And thank your friend for pointing out (although in a rather fumbling way) that if you don't take responsibility for yourself and change, you will remain a very lonely man.

Answer 5

First of all, stop blaming god and take responsibility for your condition. Check with your mom, I bet you were born a little baby just like everyone else. Genetics only has a small part, the rest is caused by poor habits. The good news is that poor habits can be changed. Start grooming yourself, eating right, exercising. You'll feel better about yourself and your self-confidence will increase. Also, beauty(handsome) is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 6

Perhaps some exercise and grooming would help, maybe buy some new clothes to boost your confidence, if your a nice lad and it seems that you are, you should have no trouble finding someone right for you but sometimes it does take a little effort, put it this way, If i was looking for love, I would prepare myself with grooming myself to look and feel my absolute best, and getting in some exercise a few hours before you go out really boosts your self esteem so go get them lad!

Answer 7

Hon you dont need friends that are going to say hurtful things to you.He is playing on your low self esteem and thats wrong.It dosent matter if you are handsome or not there are plenty of women that think more deeply then that.Beauty is superficial and only skin deep.You want to attract women try boosting your self esteem, getting a sense of humor, or just be a kind,secure, loving understanding person.Beauty always fades,but personality lasts a life time.You say you never groom.Maybe now is the time to try that as well.Get your hair cut, shave or trim your facial hair.Remember first impressions are everything.And on a personal note if i were you i would drop those friends that constantly make you feel bad.Good luck to you.

Answer 8

well, i know this isnt gonna make you feel better but...

people usually tell me im heaps good looking and beautiful and sh** like that and I always try to make sure i look my best not just to impress but so that i feel good about myself...

but i am still single and i havent had a bf for a couple of years now and im heaps lonely too.

i actually like big guys and most of the time when i have a crush on a guy its someone who every one else thinks is ugly but i dont care and they usually end up not being interested in me... myabe i have a cr*ppy personality or something. who knows.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when it comes to true love - looks dont matter! Dont worry about your friend. He probably put you down as a way of boosting his own ego.

You'll find someone - and when you do, make sure you treat them really special and dont listen to what anyone else says. There are other things in the mean time that you can look for to make you happy. For example, try finding new friends.... girls love having guys around as friends and maybe it might turn out to be something more....

Answer 9

Relax pal. I'm single too.. been 5 years since my last r/s. It's not bad to be single. You called that your "friend" ? A fren wld say something so hurtful? C'mon, he had hurt u badly. Why think so much over his nonsensical remarks? So wat if he's handsome? does he have the right to cricticise others? especially his fren, you? Everything or everyone is born for a reason. We must all be happy with who and wat we are. There are people worse off than u. At least u got to eat.. some people in 3rd world countries have nothing. They dun even know wat's fat n ugly. Dun dun care.. Pal, jus be yourself.. grooming takes some time to learn. Get tips from Men's magazine or the internet. Ask for fren's (sincere ones) for advices, like wat type of clothes u look good in, or hairstyle which suits u most. Importantly, it is not how people want tu to be. It is how u feel happy most in watever type of attire or hairstyle u like. Some tips or two will be better.
It is the inside that is more important. Be a good man and be nice to everyone. That fren of yours? better stay away from him.. Bad fren. No, i wldn't consider him a fren now...
Cheer up. Be optimistic.. Gals isn't everything. Get your priority right 1st..
Take care!

Answer 10

PLASTIC SURGERY!!! dont have the money you say? it is called a loan! Dont have credit you say? thats your fault...u ugly!!!...lol
JUST KIDDIN...lol
Well first of all go online and look for grooming tips...I know it can be a hard thing to learn...lol I am still trying to learn...Wear clothes that are more flattering on your body...If you dont know what those kind of things are...then ask someone who works at the store...they can also have your clothes fitted to fit you better...get on a good diet, lose some weight...just act like yourself...all of the good lookin women around here are usually dating all of the hot guys when they are younger...but later on they end up marrying the not so good looking guys...cause they are nicer...dont really know why that is, but whatever floats their boats...I myself am actually a pretty close to perfect guy..I was one of the ugliest kids in the world, so i got teased and knew i was ugly until...oh...about my senior year...then i just changed...my face changed drastically...I had some dental work done (davinci veneers) and then i became one of the most popular guys in my school almost overnight...so now i still have my ugly complex but not as bad...women like that I am good looking yet i am not too overly confident...just keep your chin up...dont worry things will get better...trust me...it will change when you least expect it...