We been together 3 yrs and gradually sex is taking a back seat. I love her deeply and we are still very attracted to each other .She almost always "comes"....DING DONG!! so it seems ideal qualitywise.
However, I am unhappy with quantity of sex. I am probably the hornier of us 2. Is this telling of the relationship..ie I fancy her more than she fancies me?
I think maybe I feel I need regular practice to keep???...is this so bad?
Are we (boys) as a rule hornier than girls? Afterall we produce more sex cells and not the puny one a month for girls? :-)
Quality is a given....what about quantity?
Girls , can you be truly satisfied with as little as possible providing its quality?
"I prefer a cuddle to sex sometimes"...she said once??? WHATS THAT ALL ABOUT ????...think she bonkers; how can that be??!!
2006-08-29 01:52:21 · 23 answers · asked by SledgeHammer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to say that since we got married it has gone down hill too. It isn't that I don't want to have sex any more but sex was better when he was trying for it and not jsut going straight for the boobs. I have told him this and gradually it is getting better. I some times feel more like I am being molested then made love to. Think back to the first few times you did it. There was excitement and sudections. You had to work to get her into bed. Well you still do, sorry. I keep explaining this to my husband and he honestly thought that he could just tell me he wanted sex and I would jump on him like a good girl. Nope. You have to warm up the oven before you stick in the roast. You can never stop courting your wife.
Us girls are just as horny but we want good sex not to be grabed and used like a blow up doll.
2006-08-29 02:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just have a galfriend, probably younger on the side, whom you can release the extra into. Forget all this hugging and cuddling business, if u are honest, can u say you got satisfaction from cuddling? are you less hornier after cuddling? Answer is NO.! You want sex, only sex cures 'thirst-for-sex', not cuddling, not bj's not lap dances, there is no substitute for sex, if u are under 40 years, you will grow lines coz of frustration. If she doesnt want, get another gal who wants sex for sex, and do it to her! Period! Dont be too moral about it. In ancient society, men kept as many as 6 wives, coz it was known that a man's sex drive is higher than a woman.
Stop being a sissy, go out, have sex, sleep happy!
2006-08-29 02:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by mike w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was with my guy for two years and he always wanted sex and at first I did too but then as the relationship got old so did the sex. I then lost my intrest in him and we are not together now. What I suggest is that you talk to her ask her if she is not sexually intrested in you any more. Do some romantic things like take her to the beach for a walk (I live in FL) if you dont have a beach then a park in the evening holding hands just talking and looking into each others eyes and then just take her behind a tree lay her down and go to second base.......then go home and go for the homerun
Good Luck
2006-08-29 02:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by oneluv804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've not even stated how often you both have sex?
There's no average, each couple is different. The amount of sex does get less after time and it takes work from both sides to keep the spark going.
Have you even spoken to her about this???
Of course, it is usual that men are more hornier than women, it is a natural thing.
If you are not happy with her, and you have spoken to her about this and to no avail, then maybe she is not the one for you.
Maybe you need a horny ***** to satisfy your needs.
Personally, I think you need to get to know what women are about, as you obviously seem immature and cannot use your common sense. think about it, talk about, sort it out.
2006-08-29 01:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by hippyJu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, the longer a relationship goes on the less important sex becomes, but it should never disappear. Prefering cuddles to sex is her way of saying that she is truly happy and comfortable in the relationship and she does not believe she has to show this by having sex with you when she does not want to. Realise how lucky you are.
2006-08-29 01:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 3 or 4 times a week is the average. Throw in a wedding band and a couple of kids and you can guarantee it'll probably dwindle to nill :)
2006-08-29 02:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by cinamoncupcake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a known fact that sex does kinda die down when living together - its like its just so available and on tap that it can kinda get boring!! I think you need to introduce something new into the bedroom - maybe buy her a racy little outfit - or yourself one even!!! Treat her to a romantic evening - dinner/run her a bath/ that kinda thing - women LOVE to show how grateful they are in person for these kinda treats. And also - cuddles ARE important - we dont feel so taken for granted then.
2006-08-29 02:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youv been together 3 yrs then sex will probably start taking a back seat, you need to work at it and make her feel wanted, demanding sex is not a good look. i spose average is a few times a week...but it depends on ur lifestyle. talk to her about it my love, seems a lack of communication is present.
2006-08-29 01:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is a small one. Just tell her if she is not going to give you enough sex, then you will look for that with someone else. Don't betray her by doing it with someone else without her knowledge. Be honest to her and tell her frankly that you'll see someone else to have sex if she is not satisfying your sexual thirst! Women are jealous and they will do everything possible for you not to go with someone else (of course if she still loves you)
Also check whether she is not sdatisfying her sexual needs with someone else who is better than you, that's y she is not very much interested in you.
Take care and happy sex
2006-08-29 02:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's settling into a relationship ... you're still trigger happy!
She's a typical woman ... happy to have sex occasionally and to enjoy other things too. You're a typical guy ... wanting sex all the time and upset when she doesn't!
Talk to her about it and reach a compromise!
2006-08-29 02:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋