He doesn't know I saw this activity, and he volunteers periodically that he is no longer on the site. Menawhile, we are seeing each other regularly, going away together, etc. I found out by accident, but now I really don't know what to do. We have not said we are exclusive, but he refers to me as his girlfriend. I think I'm mostly upset that he would lie (he seems otherwise honest). Also, what does this mean- obviously, he is still looking, so I am not the one, right? Or is it just force of habit after being on the personals so long?
2006-08-29 01:45:08 · 15 answers · asked by auntgrace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did find it by accident, because I was at a friends, who was showing me some of her prospects and he was among them. hHe had responded to her query with a canned response and then never wrote back. She did not know this was who I was seeing. I know I had a hell of a time getting off the personals because I couldn't seem to get Yahoo to take me and my profile off!
2006-08-30 02:58:04 · update #1
Haha, I went through a similar situation after having met a guy thru match.com. I confronted him on the issue and he made up some crazy story about his brother going on his profile....and updating his pic at that! What a nice brother, lol. But anyway, back to your situation. There are multiple reasons as to why he could be on the site. He could in fact be bored with you, and thinking that he or you may end the relationship soon, so is looking around for other prospects. Or, he could just be feeling insecure, and looking around is his way of alleviating that insecurity. In this case, he may in fact still want to pursue something with you but may just be going thru a temporary phase of insecurity or disinterest. In any case, you prolly should talk to him about it, but make sure you do it in a non-confrontational manner.....otherwise he will most definately make up lies because he will feel cornered and threatened. And bottom line since you said he already kinda lied, you have to decide if that is something you want to tolerate. Even minor, seemingly harmless lying can escalate into more substantial lying in the future. Hope that helps! And good luck.....since I've been where you are I can say that it feels really shitty to stumble across something like that.....you feel deceived and hurt.
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2016-11-06 00:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can we say LIAR???? Do you think that he isn't lying about other things? Come on, if you were ok with this behavior, you wouldn't be asking a question about it. So why continue with someone that you can't trust. HELLO???? Is anyone home???? Dump him!!
Wait, I just thought of something... How would you come across his info accidently, if you were on the same site? Maybe he is on there still because he knows that you are still on there. Come on, who is fooling who here?
Maybe you two deserve each other!
2006-08-29 01:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you lie and say that your mate was on the dating site and came across it - liked the sound of the guy and showed you the profile and you know its his. Ask him straight out are ye just a casual thing because if so you're going to put your proile up there too. That should straighten him out. If he doesnt remove it - you're quite entitled to have yours up there and date whoever replies
2006-08-29 01:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing in the beginning. I confronted him about it and he said it was habit. So I told him that if he was still looking for someone then he needed to be honest with me. He laughed and told me that there was no other. We got married 5 months later. So just try to ask him honestly.
2006-08-29 01:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by angelfsh9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and I mean dump him now. If you know for a fact he is still active with his profile, he is palying the field while lying to you.
If he is not honest now with you chances are he never will be.
Best to show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him in the butt on the way out. get wise now before you find it is too late.
2006-08-29 01:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he sounds like a real creep and a liar. I say that you get of it now, before you become any more attached to this person.
The signs are all there, and it's up to you to do something about it. Don't sell yourself short.
2006-08-29 01:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be force of habit, and maybe he could have met some people he just keeps in contact with using that site. Could be harmless. I would ask, but how exactly did you find it again????
2006-08-29 01:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you, I would just ask him straight-forwardly. Tell him I know he's still using his account. You want honesty in your relationship? Then start practicing it!
After all, you don't need a liar, do you?
Good luck!
2006-08-29 01:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a freakin liar n ask him whats up with it?? u don't need to be in his face bout it but u do need to confront him about it unless u just wanna ignore the fact that he is still interested in other women b'sides u..
2006-08-29 01:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋