i got 1, whos on the piss every night of the week, she picks fights, brings up **** from the past and generally makes no fuken sense. i can't stand the shite. she's in denial she needs help, not 2 mention she's been this way for a good 10yrs n wouldn't listen to nething i said newho. i'm on the verge of cutting her outta my life 100%, i fuken hate her wen she's maggot! can ne1 relate?
2006-08-29 01:41:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I am sorry for you and your family . . . I am an alcoholic and hated what I was doing to my family even though you'd never know it by my behavior!! There is a wonderful way to deal with this that will help YOU! It's called Alanon. Look it up on the web in your area and go to a meeting. Keeping an open-mind helps too. You don't have to take the abuse, walk away from it but try not to "hate" the alcoholic. She is very, very ill and needs help, too. You WILL get the sane help you need in dealing with this situation by attending Alanon regularly whether the alcoholic gets sober or not. "Cutting" her out of your life could "Cut" you out of having a truly great growth experience for yourself, not to mention a positive benefit for your whole family. Give Alanon a try before you judge . . . and good luck, I will be praying for you and your family.
2006-08-29 02:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Got a video camera? Set it up in the room on a night/day when you know she is going to be drunk. Put it somewhere where it gets good view but disguise it a little so she does not know it is there. When she walks in the door turn it on and let it roll. Do this several days in succession keep filling up the tape.Fill up several, if you can record a date or record yourself saying the date just before she comes in so she knows how often this happens. Then on a day when she is not drunk. Tell her you love her but you need her to watch something, it is important to the health of your relationship. She will hopefully be appalled at her attitude and actions and will slowly make a change for the good. If she cares. If she doesn't care there is not much else you can do but leave. Some people just do not realize, just how ugly they are until they see it for themselves. They are in denial as you said. We did this for my friend and she burst into tears and hid from us for 3 days she was so embarrassed. Then she joined AA. So maybe it will work for you too. Good luck and God Bless you.
2006-08-29 09:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for a family intervention if you love her. shake the hate, before she dies of her disesase. you need help from others, this is too big for just you, cutting her out will help you but it won't do her any good.
2006-08-29 08:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by ROBIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, my entire family are alcoholics. I just join 'em. Get drunker than your sister and she'll start being annoyed by you.
And the best part is: YOU WON'T REMEMBER ANYTHING THE FOLLOWING DAY.
2006-08-29 08:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M SORRY YOUR IN THAT SITUATION. BEEN THERE; AND ONLY SHE CAN TURN HER LIFE AROUND IF SHE TRULY WANTS TO. I WOULD GUESS AFTER 10 YEARS SHE HAS NO INTENTION TO. I WOULD SUGGEST TO YOU TO FIND A APT. OR CONDO AND GET AWAY FROM HER AND DON'T GET PULLED DOWN WITH HER. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-29 08:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by FLATTOP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the heck away from her. Write her off as much as possible. You can't fix her.
2006-08-29 08:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by sandeecbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋