around 2 months ago me and my this guy broke up after 5 months of dating. he says he still loves me and i dont get it. if he loves me why would he break up with me? sometimes he'll say its cuz i'm too perfect but i dont understand that and sometimes i just want to kick him in the balls for lying cuz i know it cant be true. but cuz he keeps saying he still loves me i cant let go of him. because he says he still cares i think for some reason theres still a chance. and tho i have other guys i would like to go out with and who would want to go out with me, they arent my dustin =[ and he's the one i want back. it just isnt the same with other guys.
2006-08-29 01:26:58 · 17 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so i guess u can say my question is how can i get over him?? or should i just kick him in the balls and get it over with so he'll tell me the d*mn truth!
2006-08-29 01:27:54 · update #1
Just keep dating and I promise you will find one a whole lot better than your Dustin. Dustin sounds like a jerk. Let him go. Find someone who will treat you better. You deserve it....
2006-08-29 01:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why you can't get over this guy because he broke up with you and didn't give you a reason. Once you get a reason and the reason sounds logical, you can have closure and start to get over this guy. Talk to him and ask him the reason why he broke up... or find out why he broke up with you and continues to tell you he loves you. For him to break up with you because you're "perfect" sounds like an excuse. No offense, but there is no one perfect in this world. Good luck!
2006-08-29 08:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get over him, (it doesn't sound like you are ready yet) you need to move on and see other people. Try to put him out of your mind and focus on a new guy. If you still want him talk to him about the way he made you feel, if he does it again I'd dump him. He's not showing you he loves you by treating you that way. Actions are louder than words.
2006-08-29 08:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just telling you these things so you don't date other people. It's like he doesn't want to be with you, but the thought of you being with other people drives him crazy. Tell him to make up his mind. He probably still does care, but he wants his freedom and wants to date other people. When hes "done" i'm sure he'd probably come back to you, but do you really want to be that woman who sat waiting? Go out with othere guys...see whats out there. Have a great time and do new things with new people. You deserve it!
2006-08-29 08:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kick in the balls option sounds good to me. The guy is just playing with you.
2006-08-29 08:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna lie. I didn't read your question, only the "I thought i was done with this problem" part. I thought I typed the last half of that sentence, but the cursor wasn't on the text box, so I typed, but the words didn't come out on the screen.
2006-08-29 08:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they never bloody change!! i went out with one for two years then out of the blue he dumped me. i couldn't get over it but he wouldn't take me back. i tried everything. one day i realised that i needed to get on with life and understand that he didn't want to be with me and i couldn't change it. so i took some time and looked at the relationship and started to dsee the flaws and understand that it probably was for the best anyway. I didn't see himn either it makes it too hard. then one day it just came to me...this is it i am over him! it was a great weight lifted i felt free and happy and it just happened. then would you believe that a week later he calls and says he loves me and wants me back and is sorry etc. well how could he do that?? it took me months to get over it and when finally i do.. he wants me back??? playing with my mind?? nope apparantly not. but unfortunately for him i had gotten over it and there was no going back.
i ended up dating another guy who said he only wanted to be friends but we hung out and had sex etc but that was all it was going to be even though i thought i loved him and wanted to be with him i could see it panning out the same way as the previous relationship so i just let it end slowly... we still hung out but no sex etc and he seemed perfectly happy. then when i moved on he cracked the shits and said he wanted to be with me when he clearly stated to me and my friends that he only wanted friendship.
men only want what they can't have. if you have to play games to keep him it's not worth it.
he will realise the mistake he made when its too late.
i am now with a genuine guy who loves me and there are no games. i trust him 100% and we are open and honest and talk about everythng. its the best relationship ever. and i know already that he is not going to break up with me for some stupid immature reason like those others and i love him for it. we communicate well and it is great.
you would probably be best with some you time for a while to work out who you are..then you will know the right decision.
2006-08-29 08:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by ricky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You understand the likely story right? That he found another girl that he wanted to be his main squeeze then she went away? (Or some such thing.) If you look for a guy to complete you, to make you happy, to bring contentment, you're leaning on the wind.
2006-08-29 08:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like that are not worth the stress. he's just stringing you along, probably for some *** or something. i'm guilty of the same crime back in my younger days. i have since then grown up and realized if you love a girl you dont string her along like that. if you really want to get over him, just imagine him taking an enormos crap. thats what my gramps taught me and it actually works. maybe its different for chica's though. good luck.
2006-08-29 08:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how can he love you in 5 months, i do beleive in love at first sight, but it is very rare. People throw out the word love like its a game. He dosent love you. He is attracted to you. Move on!
2006-08-29 08:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋