Ok,
I have a question..
How come a women who is being cheated on by her boyfriend, will almost always chose to go after the girl who tells her the truth?!?! Its almost as if it is a waste of time and breath to bother saying anything at all. They chose to ignore the mans actions and go straight for the messenger.. I dont understand why they won't listen to the facts... I'm sure most women out there aren't going out of their way to try and lie about a mans infidelity. Hello Ladies! Stop and think about the situation before you freak out on a girl who is just trying to be honest and help you out....
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2006-08-29 01:25:35 · 10 answers · asked by Helweh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would think it is because the woman who told her about the cheating would be delivering humiliation. Like you sullied their honor or something. You are the one that brought the bad news, because before that they were living in "blissful ignorance". You are the one that made the embarrassment known so they have to like fight you for their dignity or something. And to them it is way of dealing with the problem without actually dealing with "the" problem. It is easier to fight with or "shoot" the messenger than to fight with the boyfriend. And it probably doesn't hurt as much to fight with the messenger than to fight with and possibly be rejected by the boyfriend. It is a type of therapy I guess.
2006-08-29 01:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question - I guess its just coz its the initial shock and hurt of being told what your boyfriend is up to. Often the senses go everyway but the right way. I mean if you were told that your man was cheating - reason goes out the window and you just try and hurt the person nearest to you (the teller) to try and deflect your own pain and anguish.
2006-08-29 08:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you... i think if a friend told me the truth that i did not see then why should i go against her...she was just trying to help me... i do not know why the girl turned on you...she just does not make any sense...or she is just to young and does not know that once they do this they are more apt to do this again...i would not worry about her...you did what you thought was right...i appreciate when someone tells me that my guy has been unfaithful...it may hurt at first...but it is better to know...
2006-08-29 08:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered why women go after the other girl as well ,,it is the guy that is fooling around on their woman,,he is the one they should be ticked at
2006-08-29 08:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by too shy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you--the "other woman" didn't make any commitment to her--the stinking cheater did. But it's always easier to blame someone you don't know.
2006-08-29 08:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, unless you know the girl and she knows you. Sometimes men tell a woman what they need to to drop the panties...
2006-08-29 08:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I will try to remember this
2006-08-29 08:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol~ sounds as if you were the messenger. I agree with you tho:)
2006-08-29 08:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by canuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a question after all?or just giving info.hehe
2006-08-29 08:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by bisaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so long one
2006-08-29 08:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋