Hi, I am 19 and still a virgin. My bf wants to have sex. I still am not sure. He asked me if he could finger me the other night. He did it for a while, but I pushed his hands off. I was scared. I dunno how it feels and just worried. Plz help.
2006-08-29 01:11:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plain and simple, if you're not sure than don't do it! If he is a good man than he will respect your wishes! You're not ready! You will know when your ready! i.e. You will not be scared when you're ready!
2006-08-29 01:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by colleen3273 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its OK to be scared! But dont let him pressure you in to anything! my bf has been asking me to have sex with him for 3yrs, am 20 and still a virgin! If you dont feel ready then that's fine, you should only do what you feel ready to do! If he really loves you he will wait till your totally comfortable!
2006-08-29 08:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't respect you now, he sure won't respect you later. Please do your self a favor and find a man who will respect you. This way you will not have any regrets later on down the road.
You have waited this long, I think that that is awesome. So find some one who will wait until you feel you are ready not someone who wants to push you into something that you are not sure you want right now.
2006-08-29 08:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is if YOUR ready or not, and it sounds like your not. That shouldn't be a problem.....(cause a little frustration maybe). Your boyfriends needs are only 50% of the relationship and you both have to agree on the really big decisions.....like sex. You don't want to regret your decision....either way. I hope you meant you felt nervous instead of scared, and your boyfriend is patient and understanding.....and if he isn't, i hope your next one is!
2006-08-29 08:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if ur not ready DONT DO IT!
he's only trying to presure u into this cuz thats all he wants
dont go along with it hun
dump the loser
or tell him straight up no sex
if ur not sure dont do it
its that simple
u wait for someone better than this loser
dont give in hun just say no =)
2006-08-29 08:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not generally start with the idea that this is something terrible and painfull, this is one of the best experiences so just relax and do it if you really want.
2006-08-29 08:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by silverspoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter about age this shows your fragile yet and itll take tym for you to get in the mood and feel relaxed about doing it with him...just let time bide..slowly..and youll be ready...everyones abit scared at their first time its natural dont worry...dont let him push you into it
2006-08-29 08:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by SenSored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to wait until you are ready. If he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
Don't rush into sex if you wait until the time is right
It will truly be special..
Goodluck :)
2006-08-29 08:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Helweh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you thought about doing the deed.The Big Deeed.It hurts at first then it becomes gr8,apparently.But there's no need to be worried.Tell him to be gentle very gentle.
2006-08-29 08:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Cube 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2006-08-29 10:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by babybeast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋