i really need someones help....?

Question

this is a serious situation i have going on and need real help for it so please please real answers. im twenty four and live with mom, if i could i wouldve moved out a while ago but having fiancial issues along with getting hours at work. im dealing with a lot of emotional issues and have been for quite sometime, my mom knows about em and my mom cares less. i try talking with her and shell turn the convo upon her problems at work and just forget that i even said anything at all!!!! one example i have OCD and i cant leave the door to the house without turning and yanking on the knob to make sure its shut and secured. it resulted in one day of the door knob coming off - my fault yes although i did get it fixed!! this morning just now my mom is in the kitchen trying to get out and the knob falls off - shes screaming her head off at me and well i cant repeat what she said. needless to say i want to kill her! since i cant do that my only option is to cut - im a cutter. HELP PLEASE

Answer 1

ok honey are you seeing a doctor for the cutting and the ocd?? your mom doesnt look like shes supportive at all of you. if you want to chat im me on michelledd382000@yahoo im at work right now but will be off and on for awhile. dont do anything to hurt yourself!!!!

Answer 2

Some mom's feel (and sometimes but rarely this works) that if you ignore a problem, your child won't see it as a problem either and it will go away on it's own. Since you are 24, this isn't likely to happen... but since your mother doesn't know how to deal with it, she's going to ignore it or thinks you can fix it on your own. OCD and cutting are not something moms of her age are too familiar with.

You need help with both those problems. I have a sister with OCD and she's learned how to 'curb' it. I also have a daughter that used to cut. There are therapists who deal with this sort of behavior and you probably qualify for free visits to help you with it. Call a Child & Family services or other community center in your area for information about who you can go see. There are programs available if you know where to look - do your homework and get yourself some help.

Also, you may want to consider a roommate if you are financially unable to live alone and feel you would be less likely to cut if you were away from your mother. If there are any colleges in your area, chances are there are bulletin boards for students looking for roommates. You can start there if you can't find any listings in your local paper.

Good luck to you :)

Answer 3

You probably know what a a lot of your answers will be, many of us are going to tell you to go & get some counseling & professional help. You need to be on medication. As long as you are feeling this bad it is not the right time to move out on your own. Get some help, go on a medication & think more clearly. Then maybe you get get a place where you can share the rent with a friend. Or look to see if there is someone looking for a roommate in some ads some where. Try looking at a bulletin board in a local college. Good luck !

Answer 4

Yes, I agree with everyone above me - you need to get some professional help.

It sounds like your mom is frustrated because she can't help you or maybe she's in denial about you're problems. It sounds too like maybe she's asking for emotional support from you as well - is she in some sort of counseling? That might help too.

Other than the counseling (for both of you) try to help her as much as you can around the house and express sympathy for her and maybe she'll calm down a bit.

I don't know why you cut yourself but there are better ways to relieve stress or express your anger, sweetheart. Medication won't cure it, it will only alleviate it for a while, just like hurting yourself does. If you can get a handle on the OCD and maybe gain some independence, you might not feel the need to do that anymore, but I really don't know.

Answer 5

u need to relax and seek some help there are alot of numbers and hotlines that can help you if you research the net. ure one of many that have these disorders (cutting and ocd) believe me u might feel better talkin to someone with experience about it. ure mom is obviously not takin u seriously and is not the one u need for support right now. understand that people make mistakes and u dont need to hurt ureself to make ureself feel better. thats weakness and thats what people can help u work on. giving u strength to not take anything out on ureself and realize life is making mistakes and i make about 1000 per day and definitely get in trouble for alot of them but thats life and im strong enough to take it as it comes and know that what doesnt kill me makes me stronger and i tolerate alot more than i used to and letting alot of things go and not take everything with a grain of salt has made me much happier! good luck and please research and contact someone to help u become the person u know ud rather be!

Answer 6

Just relax and take a deep breath. Life goes on and most situations are not that serious. Try to save money or move in with friends. Do something that you like that keeps you busy and avoid conflicts with your mom. Vent to someone who actually cares and look on the bright side of life. God bless!

Answer 7

Hm, properly i do no longer think of there are any songs i admire *basically* for historic past vocals, yet there are countless songs that i admire the backing vocals on. Like, Scar Tissue by using RHCP, Nowhere guy & Paperback author by using The Beatles MQ: no, i've got no longer. MQ2: "bounce"- Van Halen MQ3: Hm, i might might desire to declare "under the Bridge" :]

Answer 8

You need professional help. You won't get that here on this BBS.

Look in your phone book for "Crisis Numbers" in your area. Usually they're in the "Health" or "Physician" sections under "Psychology", "Psycholigists", or "Psychiatrists".

There's almost certain to be a crisis number at your local hospital, too. Call their main number and ask for it. They'll help.

But don't waste any more time here. CALL THE HOSPITAL OR A CRISIS LINE.

Answer 9

There is medicine for OCD. Do you see a specialist? You probably should since you seem to not have a very good support unit at home.

Answer 10

Why not listen to your mom's headaches? Why does it have to be about you? Cutting doesn't do any good. Study Nicherin Di Shonan. Learn to listen and help others and you might find it will help you too.

BTW - Is the door lock? :-)