we both are from different communities and she has some family problem, so that she is behaving like . its been a month i hav spoke to her . and now when ever we speak we just quarrel about this topic and hurt each other . pls hepl me out . in this . and tell me how to console her. that its difficult to be without her . i know am behaving unmatured. but i have never been so possessive in my life to anyone . am now asking her for long term relation. would it happen
2006-08-29 00:59:43 · 6 answers · asked by sadiq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If her family problems are interfering with her outside life, then maybe she needs (and her family with her) counseling. Some things aren't as easy to work out without help. Talk to her calmly about maybe seeing a therapist or clergy member for some assistance.
If you think you can keep your temper, then offer her a shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear whenever she needs it. Don't try to solve her problems, just be supportive of her when she needs it. As hard as that is, it's not your place to fix her problems.
As much as this hurts, you've implied that you two don't have a long term relationship. You want one, but her family problems are getting in the way. She might not be ready for the commitment and responsibility if she has that many other problems in her life. It's hard for a person to juggle many different relationships when the dynamics aren't working properly. The emotional strain can be too much for some people.
Be patient, be supportative, and most of all, try to keep some perspective about this. Being immature and possessive aren't the best ways to deal when your partner has problems. You even admited that you are unhappy with your behavior, so you recognize that you need to be more giving towards her, and less worried about you at this point.
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 01:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i dont know if i am eligible to answer this uuestion as i am too young for it. but even then let me help u. i can know that u love her very deeply but r u quite sure she too loves u? if she too loves u then do speak to her and know what problems she is facing. r u working? if u r working and earning then u surely can speak to her and also convince her family. but if u r not working yet then please do wait till u get a job because then alone u can sustain ur relationship and be successful. that time u can even overcome ur community differences and nobody can stop u. all the best !
2006-08-29 01:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess first of all is the girl ready for consent? I mean is she 18+ only then you can talk to her about this stuff. You can tell her again and again that you like her take her out to places on dates and stuff. Try to also make her realize your feelings to her. You can also tell her that communities, cultures, religions don't matter to you that is if they really don't matter lol.
2006-08-29 18:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep ur love to her if she do the same and u confident her but if u see any betrayment dont keep any hting in ur heart but if there are a good relation kkep ur love for ever..
2006-08-29 01:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she ready to go against her parents if she loves u so much she wil betrate anything for u but if u break ur promisie where she will go
2006-08-29 01:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know why she is avoiding you... because you need to learn how to spell.... Propper grammar is also helpful.
2006-08-29 01:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋