Inpatient and aggressive - the poor kid!?

Question

When a child is in her terrable 2, and you are getting impatient and aggressive, how do you get power back?

I do not like to screem and shout all day. That is not like me!

Answer 1

Patience is not forming part of a kid character. At least not in the first 5 years for sure. Aggression is quite normal, even if you do need to set limits. That is all about.
I have similar problems with my almost 4 years old daughter. After trying all sorts of approaches, I did what I thought it would be better and it works reasonable well.
If younger, send a kid to a corner in the room, always the same one, and keeping the child there looking at the wall is a good punishment that goes against aggression and physical punishment - only use it when the situation can hurt her even more, like in case of danger, always keeping myself under control -
I know that the corner is an old fashion method, but it works. After that you go besides your child, put your face at her/his level and then tell softly that she must never do that again. Probably he hill cry, and hold you. Then it is finished with the problem.
In kids older than 2 or 3 years, the situation is more difficult to control, and I have seen how my daughter lays on the street, under the rain, kicking because I did not want to do exactly what she wants - setting limits is part of a good education -
The only method that works at least with mine is letting her on the ground as long as she wants, be close to her and once in a while ask her to come with you. After a while and tired of being there, your kid might open her/his arms and come to you.
Be firm, yet not screaming to much. In cases that the right way does not work, a good scream on time prevents an accident and most of the times stop the situation. Watch out that he/she does not answer back, it also happens.
I would say that the best is to try to feel the personality of the child, and combine different attitudes with some games in order to get closer but always keeping and reminding to you and your child who is the mother.
Hoping some of this can be helpful for you,
Fro

Answer 2

I hear you my son is 2 and a half and was getting out of control. Try a time out chair, make him/her sit their for 2 minutes till they realize what they did. I make my son tell me why he is sitting their. I continue to tell him No more hitting,No more yelling,No more running ect. He says it back to me as well, it takes a while but sooner or later he/she will start to learn when they do these things, they go to the time out chair always. You cann't yell at a child, they won't listen, especally if you are yelling at them to stop yelling. All bad habits are learned, and from us they are learned. It is hard i know, just day by day.....

Good Luck
Jenn

Answer 3

Oh the miracle of a TIME OUT. (Supernanny) I have struggled with that too. I picked out a spot for her to go when she is misbehaving (mine is now three - and she is still in a Terrible-something). You make them stand there for two minutes. Shouting and screaming and whatever... just distance yourself. You don't need to scream or shout, just carry out the threat of a Time out - it really does work. Good luck - they don't come with instruction manuals do they??? lol

Answer 4

Completely ignore her, make like a joke, fall on the ground with her, show her how she looks. I do that with mine and she hates it... of course she stops!
Good Luck

Answer 5

try giving her 'time out' or the gold star system with rewards for good behaviour. that one really worked for me when my child was 2.

Answer 6

Just keep her entertained in a safe manner. keep valuables out of reach...

and remember that this stage will be over before you know it...

Answer 7

try the naughty chair method

Answer 8

walk away ,take a deep breath ,then try a different approach.

Answer 9

agrasive....................