Ok this is my story...me and a guy had a vacation romance once and were going to see them again. The thing is we still feel something for each other and the thing is this tme he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend...Should I tell my boyfriend about him or just leave it till they meet...?Please help!?
2006-08-29 00:41:28 · 15 answers · asked by Lexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, here's your story: you and this guy had a fling in the past and now have respective boyfriends/girlfriends in your life. But now ya'll are gonna meet again and you THINK that maybe you will still feel a spark for this fling guy. And you're worried about how that is going to affect your relationship with your boyfriend when everybody meets.
Well, first off, everybody meeting doesn't sound like such an all-fired good idea. Why would you do something like that ? And how do you kow that you still feel something for him unless you have been in touch with him behind your boyfriend's back ? (And he behind his girlfriend's back.) If that's the case - if you two have been chatting it up behind your respective b/g-friend's back, then you two are courting disaster - and you have already been VERY disrespectful of your current beau. (Gee, honey, how would you like it if you found out your boyfriend had been sparking with a chickadee from his past behind your back ?) So if that's the case, then CUT IT OUT!!!!
If you feel something for the fling guy - and it's worth giving up your boyfriend, then break up with your boyfriend. You don't get to have both. I don't get why women hate it when men play the field when they have a girlfriend and then do the same thing without regard to how the guy would feel.
If you just think you MIGHT feel something for the fling guy, but you really care for your boyfriend, then....oh, how do I put this clearly ?......CUT IT OUT! Stop flirting around with the fling guy and pay attention to your relationship with your boyfriend.
One or the other, kiddo. One or the other.
And, finally, if you choose boyfriend and still end up having to interact with fling guy and his current girlfriend, then tell your boyfriend up front that this is a guy from your PAST. He has a right to to know with whom he is interacting and if you don't tell him (and he finds out later) you are going to be in one HUGE fight and you will be totally in the wrong.
Shake the cobwebs out of your head, girl, and do this straight.
2006-08-29 00:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk with your boyfriend, honesty and communication is key in any relationship. Even though you don't tell your current boyfriend he'll probably pick up the connection that you once had or still have with this other guy and he'll start to feel like the third wheel. Either way it's risky but I think you would be a lot better off if you told him. I'm sure he'll be a bit hurt but he'll either understand then you both have to work at it and avoid one-on-one conversation with that other man or the relationship will end.
2006-08-29 00:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about just leave it alone? It was in the past and you both have moved on. Why would you want to make your boyfriend insecure over something in your past? You both obviously have great memories of your romance, so leave it at that.
2006-08-29 00:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhhhm why would u be dating when u have a boyfriend, u choose , leave ur boyfriend so u can be with this new one. and tell ur guy to choose too. so it's gonna be a trouble free worry free life
2006-08-29 00:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that depend on ur bf nature cuz there are many people can accept this matter and htere are people there are cant accept it so i think u know ur bf more than any one at this ground so think well beforre doing any thing.
look, i have many relations with many girls, and they are tow kind of of them if i tell her if i have another relation she will see me an clear person and will have more confidence of me and the other if i tell her that i have another relation she will be mad about me and will not talk to me another time cuz i dont know what is ur bf are. so i hope the best wishes to you.............
take care...............
2006-08-29 00:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave it till they meet & ask dat guy.
2006-08-29 00:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by cool_pal2chat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you both need to break up so you can be together if you still feel something for each other.
2006-08-29 00:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u must tell him every thing now so that u will not face any problem ahead
bye tc and al d best
2006-08-29 00:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by navin g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both has your double share , then what more you expect to happen , go your only way separately .
2006-08-29 00:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him earlier or it will will get akward.
it is like they are talking half way then they talk about you then your ex-bf like seems to know much about you and your bf ask "how did you know so much?" and he says "oh, i was her ex-bf"
then makes your bf think that you are hiding stuffs from him. and worst maybe more stuffs and more men!
2006-08-29 00:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋