i use to be so happy all the time before when i just had met my girlfriend ,even though she use to be getting mad at me all the time.i use to try to convience her that its my fault and now i dont why i always start yell at her for so small things like if she dont answer me when i say hello.is there is any way i can be like before is it that i am getting old ,i love her so much and dont want to lose her for next 100000 lifetime just because of my stupid behavior,she is so nice to me and it kills me the way i treat her.
PLEASE HELP
2006-08-29 00:39:21 · 18 answers · asked by gurubains1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your anger is very deeply rooted. I think she might be stirring up emotions from your earlier years. Unknowingly. It would help if you could try to figure out exactly what it is that is triggering your anger. Is she ignoring you when you say "Hello," or maybe she didn't hear you. Once you figure out what is triggering it, you can work together on that area.
Keep in mind that when you start yelling, no one hears what you are "really" saying. You also give up your "power" when you are angry. Because when you lose control from anger, you also have lost your power.
There are plenty of books on Anger and Anger management. Find one and read it.
Good Luck to you.
PS I am glad to see that you realize that you have a problem. This is half of the battle.
2006-08-29 00:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... In one breath you said she was always getting mad at you and then in the next you said she is so nice to you... If she was nice she wouldn't always be mad at you... You sound like your a little confused... Or maybe your depressed, which can cause you to have mood swings, i know Ive been there... I think what you need to do is sit down with your girl and let her know how your feeling and how much you love and care for her... If she gets mad or isn't interested in what you got to say then leave you'll be better off without her if she doesn't care about your feelings...
Hang in there...
2006-08-29 00:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, why on earth wouldn't she answer when u say hello? maybe she is treating u badly that's why u re mad at her? don't blame everything on yourself. ALL PEOPLE have bad temper from time to time. so there is nothing wrong in being annoyed by smth. but why does she annoy u? or maybe u re going through the stressful stage of your life. in any case try to be truthful with yourself and admit why she annoys u. i would be very annoyed if the person im with didn't answer on my hello
2006-08-29 00:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be happy if you were taking the blame for everything that went wrong? I think you are starting to resent the relationship and your girlfriend. There are some underlying issues that you have and you need to find out what they are before you can repair this problem.....
2006-08-29 00:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her go she deserves much better that you. Could you imagine being 55 and still carrying on like you are now, what a life of hell. Move on when you find the right one you don't seem to mind them doing all those things that are pissing you off right now!
2006-08-29 00:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax urself. Try Change your behaviour.
Take a paper write down what are the foolish things u r doing. then read it. Find where is the mistake. and try to correct it.
If you practice regularly , one day you will completely change.
Best of Luck
2006-08-29 00:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by coolsara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling, better get some. I suggested that to my boyfriend and he didn't get counseling. Now we are separated. I have no love for him because of all of the mean things he has done to me either. So, if you don't seek help you can forget the girl. She will be tired of being your door mat eventually.
2006-08-29 00:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello....is there something so deep inside that you are afraid of? Please be honest with yourself.....Not everyone is compatible with each other....we all have our different personalities and we need to respect that.....if you lost her forever..I mean if something tragic happened to her how would you feel?...I thought so...then take those feelings and forget all the silly things you have argued about and make them disappear....start afresh as yesterday is gone and tomorrow is a new day. Please sort out your anger as it seems to me that you might not like to be with her as everybody's bottom line's fear is that they don't want to be alone and will put up with anything to not be alone...silly.
2006-08-29 00:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a young man , forget past and try to get some other partner and make sure not repeating the same mistake .
2006-08-29 00:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys are being tired with each other, I mean, you need some space, try to go gimmiks with your friends without your gf, try to socialize! For you to miss your gf, and bring back the spark to your relationship
2006-08-29 00:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by lady_blou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋