when ever i ask girls out, they allways say no... it realy hurts to get shot down everytime, and it takes so long to get over it. so why should i keep trying? if it only ends in embarasment for those i ask, and pain, medical deprestion and self lothing for me. i understand that the girls arnt "in to me" and i respect that. im 24 and have been shot down 25-30 odd times, i know im not "brad pit" or anything but im not pig ugly. the only girls that DO like me, i find unatractive. if i go with them, i am living a lie. and i HATE being hypocritical.
2006-08-29 00:39:17 · 24 answers · asked by jimmystraightjacket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys...
unfortuneatly i have heard this all before!
its the phisical AND the personality i find unattractive. (clingy, obnoxious, dont have things in common! etc). i may be "picky" but your telling me you all go out with people you find unatractive (phisical &/or personality)? i dont think so!
"when you least expect it" ; then i dont meet any new people!
"dating sites"; they dont like me ether! been on 3 diffrent ones!
"friends first" have had more female friends than shot downs, has never gone anywhere.
yes i may be putting girls off by being negitive, but i have no track record to go on to get any positve energy!
i can get over "lonely",
i cant see the point in getting my feelings mauled every 6 mounths, with self hate in bettween!
2006-08-29 01:24:34 · update #1
i ask the question because it is dificult to answer! if no-one can give me any fresh perspective, i must consider my other options
2006-08-29 01:57:24 · update #2
it's ur own image that gets u into rejection.
now, go out with the perception to win all the girls!
they will fall over themseles to be ur gf's.
2006-08-29 00:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If 25-30 odd times is all youve been shot down you aint doing bad at all. I can't say it enough times but I'll only say it once so read this 50 times out loud: It's not how you look to a woman that makes attraction, its how you feel to her.
A woman will almost always stick with a guy that feels right and looks ok, before a Brad Pitt with no personality.
What that all means is be yourself, be honest and don't worry about it. What you've done that 30 or so times is scratched 30 or so women off the list that would have been a mistake if they did say yes.
Not to offend, but that 'Why should I bother' attitude is most likely whats wrong if anything is wrong. I get the distinct impression that you take it so hard, you end up approaching each new woman expecting to get shot down and don't think you can hide that attitude.
Ever see the scenario: Extremely great looking, outgoing, super model should-a-been with the skinny, unimpressive, not so hip nerd on her arm? It happens, it aint the looks, its the attitude.
2006-08-29 08:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by xhang_firex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well youv certainly got a chip on your shoulder havent you! If your not interested in the answers people are trying to help you with then dont ask a question. If you werent so desperate sounding, a girl may give you a chance. You need to chill out and let love find you instead of chasing after it with a fireball up your ****. Give yourself an break and enjoy yourself with your friends and the women will eventually come flocking. There is nothing sexier to a woman than a man who is having a good time and not chasing every woman he sets eyes on.
2006-08-29 08:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Liane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been turned down that many times and you have the balls to say that you are still choosy and find some girls 2 unattractive for you???I think you might not be pig ugly but you do have an attitude .
2006-08-29 08:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chin up chicken! dont take it 2 seriously. relationships arent all there cracked up 2 b! u have 2 comprimise consistantly, deal with family members that u dislike, & sacrifice things/ people that u love!
But if it means a lot 2 u, try speed d8ing, d8ing agencies, ok they sound scary but u might find a dimond in the rough.
good luck in what ever u choose
XxX
2006-08-29 08:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lynz Lou XxX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother then. Of course you'll end up a very lonely person.
Perhaps you should look past looks as well by the way. You might find some of the girls that DO like you are actually very attractive if you bother to get past the aesthetics of what they look like.
2006-08-29 07:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are choosing the wrong type of girls. It sounds to me that they are the kind of stuck up types who don't think anyone is good enough for them. Go to different places, make sure you chat with them first before you ask them out. The right person for you will come along one day. Your only young, have some fun!
2006-08-29 07:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being as picky as they girls you ask out. Take the time to get to know a girl before writing her off.
2006-08-29 07:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by kit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow u have only been turned down 30 odd times, lucky you. I know the feeling tho,its **** but 30 rejections is hardly any.
2006-08-29 09:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by bullatpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Yahoo personals. At least then you get to know if someone has similar interests & that's a good start.
Sh*t works out eventually.
2006-08-29 07:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋