I'm not trying to offend anyone, but have you felt like you can only offer a man sex so he can like you or love you?I feel like this sometimes.
2006-08-29 00:33:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my goodness.....I thought that I was the only person who had ever felt that way. I did a long time ago....I felt like there wasn't anything about me that made me worthy other than by dropping my pants. You have to get out of that funk girlfriend!! You are worth so much more than that and even if you find it hard to believe you have to keep telling yourself that. Self confidence is sexy and soon you will find that men will be knocking down your door and it won't be just to get you into bed.... :)
2006-08-29 00:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I've never felt like sex was the only thing that I could give a man but I have felt like sex was his motivating factor in staying with me. Being the non stop sex kitten is a lot of work and it gets old fast. As I have grown older, had more experiences, and learned more about life and myself, I now firmly stand by the notion that sex is great but it can't be the glue that holds a relationship together. No couple can stay in the bed 24/7. Eventually, communication is going to have to occur. If a man only wants to sex me, he'll be gone before the wet spots on the sheet dry and I'll be the one left feeling emptier than I did before I allowed him into my most intimate places. Now, I am celibate and the next guy that gets to my treasure will have to show me that he is interested in me as a person and that he values me and all that I have to offer. Sure great sex is part of the deal but it does not define me and you shouldn't allow it to define you either.
2006-08-29 15:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing the man to define the relationship. You also are allowing your excessive desire, which is common to all women, for the company of a man to drive you without exercising the patience to attain to the kind of relationship you should be in.
Women become so enamored with so many different types of men, and yet most of these men are just a big show of coolness and charm.
You need to realize that the kind of man that can truly bring peace and joy into a woman's life is such a discipline, rigorous, strong and yet even tempered individual that he would never want to be in a relationship with a woman of lesser qualities.
You should focus on yourself and your own personal moral excellence and grace and social and intellectual beauty and not give in to this obsession with men.
Of course you will not be able to do this without the help of God, and in as much as nobody likes the idea of God any more but wants to do their own thing and be their own secular person, I am sure this advice is useless to you anyway.
2006-08-29 07:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not even that.. It wasn't enough when I gave my heart, soul, all my thoughts and all my time.. When he walked over all of this and I couldn't keep him with my love and affection you think that he would still be around just for sex? Girls tend to have sex only with those who they like and love, men just don't care as long as they get it, and they can get it wherever they want without trouble..
Sad but true..
2006-08-29 07:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by ssagittarius78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me I have only dated one guy just for my prom date but I used to think that way too because when u have a guy sometimes u r going to want him to love u more and this is true right?
I have never been there but to tell you the truth yes you do because it happens to be like that u need to use sex to make a man happy to get him satisfied.
2006-08-29 07:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that's a shame you feel that way. I'm sure you have other more important qualities that you can offer, like you cheerful personality, wit and charm. How about kindness? It's a shame that your man makes you feel this way, perhaps its time for you to have a change?
2006-08-29 07:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am most likely going to catch **** for this from the guys but, sex is not the relationship it's an intimate moment to bring two closer together. the women should never have to "give it up" just to keep her man quiet
2006-08-29 07:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by mrmiketattoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good ? i hate my boyfriend we were together from last 4 years we even had sex with each other he always used to say me that he love and he will marry me but this is not true now i come now that he just want to sex with me now whenever i called him to tell to meet with he always say we will go to room had have sex now i dont talk to him but trust me i really love him like anything
2006-08-29 07:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by munmun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a woman, but if you only have sex to gt a guy to like you....it is the wrong guy....move on to one that will like you for everything else but sex....and then let him like you for that also
2006-08-29 07:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well actually thas not really true cuz guys can like you by your personality or ur looks but u dont need to give him sex all the time
2006-08-29 07:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kezia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋