I've been dating my fiance for over a year now. We live an hour apart and up until now we seemed to make it work. For the last month or so it seems like he just isn't acting himself. He works from 6pm until 4 or 5 in the morning and only has one day a week off. I know him and his brother are sharing the one cell phone between them, which means he and I talk less. I just feel so hurt right now. He doesn't call me like he use to. I call him, but he doesn't answer and he doesn't call back. I leave him offline messages and I get no response. The weird thing is , when we do catch up with eachother, he is sweet and I feel like he does love me. I am so confused. I wish he would just tell me if he wants out of the relationship. I have asked him if he was ok and if things in his heart had changed for me, or if he no longer wanted to get married, and he denied anything being different in his feelings for me. He claims he loves me, but I really have to wonder. All I know is I'm hurting.
2006-08-28 23:56:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, this happened to me on a few relationships ago. Me and my girlfriend were very happy together. Even with my family hating her, I didn't. The relationship was great in the beginning, we would talk for hours on end. Then I took up another job and we start to talk less on the phone. When we did, we would talk like we use to, and when we meet, it was like magic. She would always tell me that she wanted me to call her after work, and I would tell her like I always would, "Of course, Sweetheart", but by the end of the day, I was always to tired to call and she was always too nice to bother me at 2 or 3 in the morning to talk for 3 to 4 hours. The relationship seemed fine to me until she was waiting in front of my house one day, she asked for a walk, and told me that she could stay with me anymore. I wanted to hold her and not let her walk away, but I knew I wasn't keeping her happy and if I really cared about her then I would have to let her find someone who would could give her the attention she deserved. I lost a very important person to me that day. I know that your hurting, I think you need to tell him how you really feel. He is probably me in that situation and thinks everything is fine. You should tell him, in person, what is really going on before, it gets out of hand. I hope this has helped, good luck with your life.
2006-08-29 00:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by binhducduong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seem too work long hours,and he sharing a cell phone.maybe he sleeping when you call or maybe he brother has the cell phone,there not not much there that suggests his feelings has changed for you,he says he still loves you and when you do catch up with each other then everything is fine,give him a break and instead of hassling him when you do get to chat tell him how much you love him and miss him
2006-08-29 00:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try this: don't call him. no matter what. don't return his calls. see how long and how much he wants you. if it lasts longer than a week and going on two. do it again. if he still neglects you, then you might need to get out. why would he change after he is married. the only difference is he will share the same bed. he may be in the same house, but he'll be tired or something.
2006-08-29 00:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and attempt and get her to chat to her father and mom... by using her chatting with them supplies her extra recommendations on wether or no longer she desires to maintain it or maybe adoption she has extra recommendations now than she would be in a position to later. Her father and mom will locate out finally basically make specific it truly is to no longer overdue. And be a solid chum and attempt and help/handbook her to make the recommendations she needs and not what every person "needs" her to do because of the fact she am has to handle it in a while in existence no count what she makes a decision... and prefer the lady till now mentioned her father and mom will improve to the assumption and definite there's a great gamble they are going to loose it however the pick no longer harm her or the toddler. So inspire her to make her judgements which will earnings her interior the top.
2016-11-06 00:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you have had a drastic change in his habits of calling you and getting together with you.. Yes he works weird hours..but you can bet your life with the changes that you have described that he is probably seeing someone closer to home..when he can't be with you.. You need to sit down and really have a long talk with him and maybe think about dating someone closer to where you live.. long distance love is hard to keep going.. and the way that you are feeling.. don't forget about it.. you need to talk..
he isn't giving you straight answers and is backing away..
just me but i would really consider finding a boy closer to you..
2006-08-29 00:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is none of my business but have u ever thought what will u do with him after u get married? he works such odd hours with 1 day off and shares his phone with his brother? it means he has no money at all? maybe u will say money is not important love is, but i ve lived longer than u probably so this is 100% proven fact: no money no honey. maybe thoase re the thoughts which re visiting his head too right now. so maybe u better postpone your marriage? what if u tell him u want to postpone it? see what happens. if he doesn't have any money now your marriage won't last anyway. sorry to reveal this truth to u
2006-08-29 00:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hardly are your instincts wrong in this type of situation. Something is definitely wrong. If you have tried to get him to open up and he refuse then you have to do what is best for you. You simply cannot leave it up to him. You have to back off and decline from pressing further. Give him a chance to react and observe his reactions objectively. Do not let your feelings cloud your better judgment. If he continue to respond negatively then your path is clear. Better to know now than later. Concentrate on getting to know yourself better and revamping your goals. This would not be the end of life. Just another lesson of reality and what life is really all about.
You owe it to yourself to not dwell in self pity and let another rule your life. They say that all's fair in love in love and war...you have to be fair to your self.
2006-08-29 00:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance's feelings for you may indeed have changed. How are you going to know if you keep ringing him and don't give him the chance to ring you? You should back off for a while, give him his space and see what eventuates. If he doesn't contact you, you will have your answer.
2006-08-29 00:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is too tired from work. I dont gind any other reason then to stressed out of work. Better spend some more time before getting married and talk to him about this matter.
All the best..
2006-08-29 00:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in cant help but ask why he and his brother share a cell phone?anyway i suggest you back off for a
while and see his reaction
2006-08-29 00:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by bimby babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋