what are the charaistics of children of alcoholics?

Answer 1

A child in such a family may have a variety of problems:

* Guilt. The child may see himself or herself as the main cause of the mother's or father's drinking.
* Anxiety. The child may worry constantly about the situation at home. He or she may fear the alcoholic parent will become sick or injured, and may also fear fights and violence between the parents.
* Embarrassment. Parents may give the child the message that there is a terrible secret at home. The ashamed child does not invite friends home and is afraid to ask anyone for help.
* Inability to have close relationships. Because the child has been disappointed by the drinking parent many times, he or she often does not trust others.
* Confusion. The alcoholic parent will change suddenly from being loving to angry, regardless of the child's behavior. A regular daily schedule, which is very important for a child, does not exist because bedtimes and mealtimes are constantly changing.
* Anger. The child feels anger at the alcoholic parent for drinking, and may be angry at the non-alcoholic parent for lack of support and protection.
* Depression. The child feels lonely and helpless to change the situation.

Although the child tries to keep the alcoholism a secret, teachers, relatives, other adults, or friends may sense that something is wrong. Child and adolescent psychiatrists advise that the following behaviors may signal a drinking or other problem at home:

* Failure in school; truancy
* Lack of friends; withdrawal from classmates
* Delinquent behavior, such as stealing or violence
* Frequent physical complaints, such as headaches or stomachaches
* Abuse of drugs or alcohol; or
* Aggression towards other children
* Risk taking behaviors
* Depression or suicidal thoughts or behavior

Answer 2

enabling behaviour - the child of an alcoholic will mix drinks, fetch beer, make excuses for the parent, do anything for the parent

lack of trust - the child will find it very difficult to trust anyone, and will be reluctant to discuss his/her home life with anyone, even teachers, counselors, etc. The child will react immediately and defensively to any suggestion that there could be anything wrong at home

aggression - the child will learn aggressive/belligerent behaviour from seeing the parent drunk; will display same

independence - the child will be uncommonly independent, making own meals, getting self ready for school, doing a lot of things independently - there may be a tendency to overachieve

caring for siblings - siblings will be closely bonded, often with one taking care of all the others, this child has taken the place of the alcoholic parent and is therefore filling a dual dysfunctional role - that of "parent" to the alcoholic, and "parent" to the other children.

emotional instability - the child will exhibit signs of lack of emotional self-control - crying, lashing out, etc.

Answer 3

Well luckily my alcoholic father worked away a lot while I was young, but I am still in Therapy two days a week now!!! I resent my father for what he has put our family through, and the fact that not even now will he give up the drink for his grandchildren's sake.

When I was a child, I just depended more on my Mum and avoided my father and any arguments with him as he became aggressive and nasty.

Mind you there is a positive, I have a FANTASTIC relationship with my Mum and hardly ever drink.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

difficulties with the following: expressing feelings, asking for what they want, solving problems, asking others to change their behavior, handling criticism, establishing and defending boundaries, ending relationships, asking others to treat them differently, saying NO, poor social skills, trust