I've been thinking about dumping this girl I've been dating, but I'm not sure if the basis is wrong

Question

I won't be making any decisions because of this thread, i just need some perspective here.

I just have lost alot of interest in sex with her. I see girls at college and whatnot, and want to have sex with them instead. I can't help it when girls flirt with me at parties, work, or school, and flirt back. I can go forever without cheating... but I wonder if I'd be cheating myself that way.

I came on here to ask about threesomes, a possibility that would definitely satisfy me. I am not a complete sex fiend, but I just don't feel satisfied by her and although our society would call me a pervert, I think guys deserve the right to be sexually satisfied as well. The girls on here told me there's a fat chance I'll see a threesome any time soon.

I really love this girl. I care about her so much and the thought of her hurting because I break up with her makes me want to cry. I've never dated a girl like her. It just would feel wrong to break up with a girl over sex, so should I go w/out?

A little tired of some of the people on here who come along imagining up things that were never part of the scenario I'm presenting them with. One person said that she is probably not interested in having sex with me. This is untrue, she bugs me constantly about sex. Another person said she might want another guy rather than a girl in the threesome. This is false since she has said to me before that the only threesome she would want is with another girl. Not to mention that I wouldn't mind another guy too much, but would prefer a girl. I don't get jealous, since I'm the hottest damn guy around.

Then there's these fools who say that I don't understand real love. Instead of saying what real love is and explaining why I do not understand it, they just blurt out that I'm not in true love.

Get your own heads straight before trying to give advice.

Once again, why is it so wrong for a guy to want to have sexual satisfaction. Had a girl said this, she would be met with far less hostil

Answer 1

DUDE....whoever u r ...youre very mature and compassionate...
i wonder how old u r since u said ur in school... im guessing college...
you have half the battle won... u recognize and admit that u have a good woman....
u know u will hurt her if u do this...but not many people realize that cheating changes everything.... u will definitely cheat urself out of the experience of loving truly and faithfully....
u may want to be right up front now... talk to her... maybe u can
work something out that satifies both of u... unlikely... but possible
or find some way to make monogomous sex better... maybe tantric...
or u maybe should just break it off til u have some more sexual experiences to compare....
but i think u already know that its meaningless and wont do much but get u off... and tho thats the main goal... it doesnt appear ur
much interested in selling urself out for it....
threesomes only work if noone feels threatened... would seeing her pleasured make u happy.... u could always get really spicy with that scene or have some way cool hand action in her line of sight.... maybe u should start with a guy added in.... see if she would go for that...
if u find that distasteful.... maybe it wont work for her the other way...
u seem like u will make the right decision...
its soooooo hard to find someone u like and love to partner with...
damned near impossible these days...its worth ... everything....
good luck buddy.....

Answer 2

First of all you would be a fool if you dumped her because the sex wasn't exciting. You say you love her but the sex aint great. You want a threesome...you wanna bang college girls that go wild....this is all fine honey, it just sounds as though you are not ready for a serious relationship. I believe you when you say you love her and thats cool but does she know any of this? You need to let her know in a nice round about way. Not "You suck in bed, but I love you." She may be looking for more excitment too. That is a communication issue between you too. You have two options...Think of ways you two can spice up the sex or break up/put things on pause and fulfill your sexual urges. Once you get old/married sex flys out of the window for some people so its best to take care of these urges now. Just my personal opinion but you need to talk to her. Good luck.

Answer 3

it truly is no longer wierd which you're nonetheless are virgin and could ruin your virginity once you're waiting on the splendid time and with the rigght individual! Dnt sense pressurised into doing so because of the fact some ladies locate it a turn off coz there are a number of ppl like your self! Many locate it a turn off through your loss of journey even if if somebody grew to become into severe approximately you and had emotions in the direction of then it won't count!!

Answer 4

I've broken up with women for less and usually regretted it later. Just think really really hard before you do this...I've ran into situations before where you seem to attract all kinds of women when you have a gf and then as soon as you break it off to pursue other options, the same women want nothing to do with you. It sounds like you love her and if she feels the same way the sex will get better.

Answer 5

I think you need to be open with your girlfriend and the two of you talk in private or with a licensed sex counselor, I believe it would do alot of good. There is no guarantee that the sex will be more satisfying with a new partner! My ex husband wanted a three some, he had one, and it wasn't all he thought it would be. He was disappointed. The thought and imaginating about it was more thrilling for him then tha actual act. (This was after our divorce, eight years ago)

Answer 6

All relationships go through ups and downs .. but you always have to remember that when you are in a bind .. it will always go back up with work and communication. If you feel that you are too young, or lack maturity to be involved with someone then don't be in a relationship. Its okay to have a wandering eye but not act on it.. its okay to have a huge imaginations of what if, or sexual fantasies but its better to act them out with the person you are involved with. I think its great that you haven't cheated on your girlfriend but I think if you are not getting something in the bedroom that you are wanting .. then find away to spice it up. There are so many things to do.. to try.. to learn.

Hugs Mel (Loving Memory to my son, our angel Zachary Aug 2, 2006)

Answer 7

Well speak up about it have you tried to let her know that maybe you guys need to spice it up in the bedroom?I mean if you guys cant talk about this things especially about a subject as important as sex then maybe you shouldn't be together when people are sexually deprived the tend to look else where

Answer 8

be faithful, what if she wanted you to do a threesome with another guy or you knew that she was more attracted to some one else other than you, put yourself in her shoes, and if your young and want to be single then go, but dont leave her hanging let her move on too, you can't not want her and not want any one else to have her, have you ever heard of a.i.ds you should find some one youd never get sick of and keep her forever

Answer 9

talk to her and try to spice things up....see how far shes willing to go...or try introducing new things into the bedroom...toys etc...sex isnt the most important thing and it can be worked on but only if shes willing....u do need to be fully satisfied with the relationship and sex is a part of that so if shes not willing to compromise on some things maybe it wasnt meant to be

Answer 10

Well you guys need to talk. Speak to her about being more kinky in bed and being more spontanious like having sex in crazy places. The way i see it, if you love her and she loves you dont mess up a good thing. Its very hard to find a good person to be with bro.