I recently caught my girlfriend looking at lesbian porn (most of her porn is straight, but this was actually lesbian). She insists that she isn't bi, and says it only turns her on to see female parts stimulated.
So, I'm a guy, and an opportunist. I figure that if she likes that, maybe I can find a way to get myself a threesome.
This leaves me two dilemmas:
1: How do I get her to admit she's Bi if she is?
She insists she isn't, and definitely seems naturally inclined towards guys for the most part. She has never dated a girl or anything. Not only this, but she is very honest to me. Perhaps she is confused, or she can't bear to tell me? Maybe i'm just hoping too much?
2: How do I get her to consider a threesome?
She has before considered a threesome, but only 'years from now'. These day she won't even consider it. She gets really jealous when other girls hit on me at parties or school, so I can't imagine how much she'd hate me with another girl. She has been cheated on by guys.
2006-08-28 20:31:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and to the moron girls who insist on insulting me. I am trying to get an answer to this question, not hear your take on my relationship.
She won't dump me for bugging her over it. I wouldn't date a girl that stupid. And if she did, I'd have another girl before the next week. I just want to see about having a threesome, if it's possible.
2006-08-28 20:48:30 · update #1
Ok, personally I think if lesbian porn turns a chick on (which is does for me) then somewhere in the back of her mind she wants to try it. That is why it is stimulating. If you had no intrest in it, you wouldn't watch it. She (your girl) may not be ready to move to that 3some level. She has probably considered it and may want to one day. I wouldn't reccomend pushing it up on her. Let her come to you. Just let her know, when its the right time, that you are ready for a 3some whenever but its ok if she doesn't want one. Make sure she knows that your the only one for her and all that mushy lovey dovey stuff. Just be open and understanding. Let her know there is no problem experimenting. And then let it run its course. She doesn't have to admit she is bi. It's obvious she gets turned on by female sexuality and thats a big enough hint. She just might not be ready to go there right now with you but may be a huge fantasy. I think you both have to be 100% sure of eachother and your love for one another. Good luck and I hope she comes around!
2006-08-28 20:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she looks at lesbian porn does not make her Bi. Most women go through fazes of curiosity. As long as she knows that you don't have a problem with her being bisexual, then if she is, and as you say she is honest, then I can't see you have a problem with getting her to admit is, IF SHE IS.
I think you are just seeing the male side of things and hoping that she is so you can have a threesome. Even if she was Bi, you said she is the jealous type so I can't see your threesome happening with you and two women. If she's smart she will suggest it be with you, her and another guy.
You also say she's been cheated on by other guys, so the fact that you are telling her that you want another female sexually, even with her will nothing for her self esteem or trust. If you know what's good for you, I'd drop it.
2006-08-28 20:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the only reason she was watching the lesbian porn is that she probably was imagining you doing what the girls were doing in the movie to her(you to her) she was just getting turn on that's all!!!! Plus most porns always have girl on girl action. It caters to men most of the time. So I don't think she is a lesbian. The other thing is that becareful what you wish for, if she admits she is bi later on she might leave you for a woman. You my friend are the confuse one. Keep on hoping!!!! And if you guys are considering a threesome beware it can backfire in your relationship. Consider the consequences!!! And tell me what woman doesn't get jealous if another girl hits on our man and the most obvious fact what woman or girl has not been cheated on????? Good luck convincing yourself !!!! A woman always knows what she wants. But they don't exist!!! A good man or for that matter a good woman!!!LOL!!!
2006-08-28 21:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by MARS227 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO! Keep dreaming buddy! All you damn college boys are the same. Always think that you're such hot stuff that you could 1. even get 2 girls in bed with you. And 2. think you would actually be able to handle the situation! HA! Keep dreaming. And I hope she slaps you good when you insist on bugging her about it.
(And you wonder why women are all crayz..... sheeesh)
P.S. I've been bisexual pretty much since I was ever sexually active, and have yet to let a man to talk me into a 3-some.
2006-08-28 20:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by CrimelessRaver 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women often find other women attractive without wanting a relationship of any sorts with them.
Lesbian porn turns me on and I am straight. I think alot of women are like that, as your girlfriend is.
2006-08-28 20:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by feel_n_learn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she can enjoy lesbian porn and NOT be bi. I enjoy lesbian porn more than all other porn, and I'm positive i'm not bi. Why? Because I don't watn to be sexually involved with girls. It's just realy arousing porn, compared to other porn. Pushing her won't get you anywhere.
2006-08-28 20:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may and she may not. More likely she is bi but only likes to look at pictures. Have you ever done that.I would drop the subject if I were you. You might lose you girl over bugging her about it.
2006-08-28 20:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say all girls are bi curious....women just look better naked...you really need to think this one thru...i wouldnt even bring it up if i were u...if shes been cheated on before she will most likely resent u after the fact and never trust u again...the relationship could fall apart
2006-08-28 20:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by sangwhich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a creep. If I was your girl I'd dump your ***!
2006-08-28 20:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no good to look at porn.
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2006-08-29 03:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋