Do women ever stop to think maybe 'good guys' are hard to find because there is no 'market' for them in relationships? If girls really wanted a good guy they wouldn't date losers is there something I am missing? I used to try to be an upstanding guy and all I seemed to get was walked on. Now all I do is treat women like sh*t and I can suddenly get a girl to stick around.
2006-08-28 20:23:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clearly you've had some bad experiences, and I'm sorry for that, but there's no reason to hold it against all girls. Sure, many of us date a loser or two along the way to finding the right one, but isn't that the same thing you've done as you dated a few less-than-perfect women on your way to finding the right one?
The good ones are worth making an effort for. If you just want a girl to stick around for a little while, I'm sure you can find one or two who are still young or immature enough to enjoy dating jerks. Once we learn that the "dangerous" boys are not good long-term investments, we look for the good guys. The bad guys have all learned the right things to say to hook a girl, and it takes us some trial and error to be able to easily see through the BS.
Honestly, this is a complaint you hear a lot, but women complain about men as much as men complain about women. Meeting and keeping the right person is a hassle for both sexes. Treat girls the way you want to be treated, maybe be a little pickier about the ones you keep around, and you'll find the right one eventually. Treat them like dirt only if you are willing to accept the same.
Who ever said finding a person who's great for you was going to be easy? Girls are told "you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find a prince" and I think the concept goes for the guys as well. Good luck to you.
2006-08-28 20:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very deep topic that takes a lot of pages for people to accurately describe to you.
In short.. It all come down to status. Nice guys appear to have low status.. because they are nice, usually needy.
When you are nice, you are actually being manipulative. You expect the other party to respond certain way just because you are "nice" to them. If they don't respond that way, you would throw a tantrum or have your feelings hurt. Which inturns make them feel trapped and sad.
Nice guy do what ever the girl want.. girls don't respect them.. think of a time when you do everything that someone asks. they don't appreciate you.
In the game of attraction.. no good deed goes unpunished.
When you treat them like sh*t.. you appear to be someone of higher status. You appear to be more real, because you are not just after what they think you are after. You beome more challenging to them. Which.. in the girl's sick minds.. translate into attraction.
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2006-08-29 05:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad it's that way isn't it? I think when you find a truly smart and mature woman she'll recognize your "goods"! LOL
You're right a good man is hard to find. I think women dump on them because they take it. Women sometimes want something but never directly ask for it...so instead they start throwing fits or complaining or withdrawing and being angry, etc. etc. etc.
I feel sorry for you guys, but really the best thing is to say "what's wrong darling...talk to me!" It's what they really are longing to hear! :~)
2006-08-31 00:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I highly disagree! This sort of behavior will not last with any self respecting woman. These women who respond nicely to men who treat them like sh!t are insecure and this kind of relationship will have no leg to stand on.
2006-08-29 12:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat all women like ladies the few who act like it are the ones you want to date.
If you find they try and get closer when you treat them bad, think of why this is messed up. Theses types are needy will take even bad treatment if they think they can rationalize affection from it.
2006-08-29 04:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by S E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women complain bc they arent satisfied or they had a bad day or that time of the month and they want someone to nod there head n listen thats all its a chick thing
2006-08-29 03:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to b urself and yes it's easier to treat ppl like **** coz than u expect nothing from them and the little u get satisfies u.Don't be a woos b urself and surround urself with ppl that appreciate ur values, I doubt u'll ever b happy with this monster u created.
2006-08-29 03:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by leed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls talk a lot. They almost never stop talking. They can talk about one topic for hours.
If you try and watch a ballgame, they won't be quiet. If you try and take a nap, they start talking. If you drive in the car, they talk.
Did that answer your question?
2006-08-29 04:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by GoldnHart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my dear you've stumbled upon one of the strangest annomilies in life. But, here's the reality. The women you're dating aren't mature enough to love themselves and know how they deserve to be treated. You'll find them (real women) as you get older.
2006-08-29 03:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by CrimelessRaver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like guys dont complain about girls. everybody complains about everything. seriously, it depends if you like the person or not. it also depends on what they want, thats why most women date losers. this world is like a freakin cat house.
2006-08-29 03:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋