but i want someone who wants me for me and not just what Im like in bed?.... and no i haven had sex with more than 2 older guys on an occasional basis.
2006-08-28 20:17:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you want someone special, you'll have to keep looking until you find him. He may be older, he may not. Being good together in bed is important, but when it comes to the long run, you need someone who you can also be friends with and respects you. You'll find him eventually, don't give up and don't be so fixated on age (though it seems to be a good idea to avoid more than a ten year age gap, doesn't often work out for long-term relationships. It's hard to have common interests with someone who grew up that long before you did). Good luck!
2006-08-28 20:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually understand what you are saying. There are many guys out there that just aren't really "adults" until later in life. Men mature slower than women, so it can be hard for us to find a man when he's still in "guy mode".
As for the bed performance, age frequently comes with experience. It can be hard to find a young caring considerate lover, instead of a selfish one. Too many young ones haven't figured out that they need to take care of your needs before they can satisfy their own for the best results ;-)
Since you haven't been with that many men, you may not have a fair judgment about the sexual side of a relationship. Try dating all different ages, and don't go to bed with them until you know that they really care about you for who you are. Sleeping together on the third date (or sooner) can lead the men to think that you were looking for nothing more than sex. Make them wait longer before you give in.
If you aren't the type who wants to wait, you may have a hard time finding Mr. Right over Mr. Right-Now. While the here and now may feel good for the moment, the caring can only come with time.
When you go on your next date, make sure you let the guy know that sex is off limits until you are ready. Don't let him pressure you into it before you feel that he cares for you just the way you are. The good ones will back off until you are ready. The good ones won't even be looking for it yet either. It's the scum that keep on pushing until you give in, dump them quick.
And have fun, you're still young so enjoy the single life for a while.
2006-08-29 01:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to find a person who would be expected to like you for you. I on the other hand believe that I'm the type of guy who is also looking for someone who likes me for me!
First off though... how old are you? I'm old, but not exceptionally old.
2006-08-28 20:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by blue_home_iguana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is generic. maximum men your age extremely do not have pleasing bodies yet because they're nevertheless growing. you're smart now to not act on those thoughts. this is purely your hormones talking. fairly quickly, liking someone 6 years older that you is surely not the type of huge deal.
2016-12-05 21:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. Than what's the problem. If you want to get to know someone on a deeper level then stay out of the bed.
2006-08-28 20:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So older guys are good in bed, but you think they want you cos you're good in bed...
I think you should stick to older guys?
2006-08-28 20:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um
i think older doesn't = better in bed
but well sometimes that is true
just keep on finding guy who is older than you and love you too
2006-08-28 20:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by daniUm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason is very simple.
gals mature a little faster than guys and guys respond well when they r older.
and u know experience adds a lot.
2006-08-28 20:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldn't matter. Find someone who really appreciates all of you.
2006-08-28 20:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lana! My name is Stephen, and I'm 47! How old are you? I'd love to chat with you and get to know you better! And believe it or not, there are a few of us out here who are not into "one night stands" and "sleepin around". I'm a one woman man, a GENTLEMAN who knows how to TREAT A LADY RIGHT! Email me and let's at least develope a good friendship, OK? God bless you "lovely Lana"! (You ARE lovely, right?)
2006-08-28 20:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋