Ok, so I arrived at his pre-school to pick my son up, yet they hadn't gotten out yet (it's a vertical kindergarten class, the older ones get out thirty mins. later than the rest) So I sat down with a grandmother and her grandson, who is my son's classmate.(they were waiting for their ride) I was smiling at him ,and he looked up at me and said "who are you? you're so ugly and you're a weirdo!" I was so utterly surprised by his dilinquent behavior, and I expected the grandmother to do something about it! She just sat there and said, "Oh Aaron, I don't think so" I was stunned! I looked at him and said "you're mean. you shouldn't do that to your classmates." and his grandmother just sat there! He said "I know I say bad words, but I'm gonna say them every day if I want to!" His granny said "well at least you know it's bad" O my gosh! and then he went around the waiting area pushing the younger kids (babies) into the walls and taking their toys from them! What would you have said/done?
2006-08-28 20:08:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The granny isn't even old! She's just like forty of maybe forty five! It's not liek she was too old to do anything about her grandson! When my son got out, I had a talk with the teacher about Aaron's behavior! She said it's because he lives with his grandma. Is that an excuse for his behavior? I don't think so!
2006-08-28 20:10:59 · update #1
he's not three. he's in KINDERGARTEN.
2006-08-28 20:15:02 · update #2
That kid needs some severe disciplin!!
A child like that has no boundaries and grandma hasn't set any. She better soon! Taking his clothes off and throwing tantrums comes next (textbook for no limits at home) watch out!!!
Your response to his behavior should be firm and friendly eg. "I don't like it when you speak to me like that".
Tell grandma that a little drop of tabasco on the tongue works wonders for bad words and biting!
2006-08-28 20:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by snowy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For now you should talk to the grandma and say that kind of behavior should not be tolorated. If the kids parents have passed on he may be trying to dealwith that and grandma should be there to be a loving yet diciplinary feature in his life. If the parents are crackheads (or other druggies/or other undesirable life where they just dont want/can have their children) maybe grandma should look at her parenting skills a little closer cause her grandson could end up the same way. After the grandma talk talk to the principal or guidance counsler about this problem. There are problem kids in kindergarten and will be every year there is kindergarten. But pushing babies should definatly be not tolorated. I know a boy like that and almost the same problem only I haven't gotten the pleasure of meeting this little boys gaurdian....my son has already been sent to the nurse by him and it's been one full week of Kindergarten. So today is my day off and I will be talking to the principal. My son says the teacher talks to the boy but then why does it happen every day?? So I go to the principal now. I wish you the best and pray for both of our children to have happy school years ahead. This should be our wonderful time seeing them enjoy school!! Lets make it as fun for them as we can.
2006-08-29 06:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kid is just a little brat. You can't change the world, just be glad your son isn't like that and tell the teachers to speak to the grandmother about it. They should be concerned about him hurting other children and tell the grandmother that if she isn't a bit more 'efficient' in disciplining him then they may have to terminate him from their school.
Maybe other parents are having an issue with this child as well, but you need to be concerned with your son first and foremost (which you seem to be) and make sure the teachers know your concerns.
Good Luck
2006-08-29 05:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how I would have reacted. I would have been stunned, as you were. I would say to confront the grandma but I doubt she'd do anything.
This reminds me of the time I was getting my hair done. I was at this girl's house who ran her hair business from her home. She had left the room for a moment and her 5 yr. old son walked in and said to me, "you're a ************ and I hate you" OMG! I couldn't belive it. I had no idea what to say. I never went back to get my hair done though.
2006-08-29 09:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have done what you did, talked to his teacher, if you notice that nothing is being done, go to the principal. The well-being of the children at the school is a direct reflection of the teachers, principals, and guardians... hopefully someone convinces the grandmother that Aaron's behavior is not "ok".
2006-08-29 03:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by hontouniungaii 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you... i'm not really sure what i would've done but your right, living w/ the grandmother is no excuse. i was raised by my grandmother and i never did any such thing. maybe she meant it as, "he's beeing raised by his grandmother and she's the same way". then i would've understood but that's just ridiculous. i would've probably just made a comment to the grandma and say something like, "does his mother know he acts that way? she probably would spank him huh?" or something to that effect.
oh great, now i just had another thought, what if he's being abused himself at home or maybe he's just lonely. maybe his mom abandoned him. i think at this point, the best thing would be to talk to the nurse or counselor at the school and let them handle it. good luck!
2006-08-29 09:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by ana g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, this kid is going to grow up to be a real winner. You did what you should have and that is correct him. You could have scolded the grandmother but I bet she would have said "I know he's a real rebel isn't he". In the future I'd avoid this duo like the plague. If it happens again I'd continue to issue simple corrections like you did already.
2006-08-29 15:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by stargirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so too. Kids like that should really be disciplined. I would tell the grandma upfront that she should really take some time to take her grandson in hand and do something about his ill-mannered behaviour.And I wouldn't be too kind when I talk to his grandma.>.<
2006-08-29 03:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tsu-chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the director of the preschool. If you still don't get the satisfaction you desire, find a new school. Apparently, the teacher was aware (and unamazed) by Aaron's behavior. If they aren't doing anything to curb his behavior problems, he may hurt your child. Talk about it and then if nothing happens, by all means, find another preschool.
It may sound drastic, but we are our children's only line of protection.
2006-08-29 03:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait till no-ones looking a push him over..... just kidding! have a go at the grandma, it's her job to advise the parents that their kids needs more discipline and a good ear clipping!
2006-08-29 03:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋