my boyfriend and i of almost 2yrs were great in the begining but like two months later he stopped calling me and i couldnt get in touch with him either... after about a month we started talking again and everything was cool and then he left me again without knowing where he was or if he was ok... and he just called me today and told me that he was sorry and that he was on like this college tour and he was on it for a month and a half and i had no idea what was going on.. he told me that he still loved me today and that he wont do it again i dont know what to do about this should i take him back or should i leave him alone...i do love him too.
2006-08-28 19:38:56 · 26 answers · asked by TWEETY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on.........
2006-08-28 19:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a relationship issues needs to be spoken. It is very inconsiderate of someone to just leave and not tell you anything keeping you in limbo, just to come back and give you some lame excuse pretending you will buy it. How would he feel if you had disappeared for a month? I am sure you don't even want to imagine it, and the first thing popping out of his mouth would be we are through. Imagine you marry this guy and have some kinds with him. All of a sudden he disappears and leaves you by yourself. Is that what you want? Don't take him back, you are better off alone. Find someone else that considers and respects you.
2006-08-28 19:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds magical.
If you like being cheated on ignored, and being treated like crap, by all means stay with him.
I would love someone too if they disappeared at times, ignored me, and acted like I didn't exist so they can have a life without me with someone else.
You need to get a backbone and realized your being used. Do not be dumb and stay with this guy. This is the type of situation that gives smart women a bad name.
Before you get into another relationship, make sure you mature and improve your self esteem. No inteligent man or women would accept such behavior so don't you.
2006-08-28 20:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think loving someone means just disappearing and letting your loved one worry about you....and then doing it all over again. But hmm giving him the benefit of the doubt, two years is a long time so maybe one last chance is ok to give. If he doesn't change, perhaps he thinks you'll just keep taking him back anyways. So if he does it the third time, enough is enough!
2006-08-28 19:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by ginger n' spice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has contacted me everyday and we only live 2 minutes from each other and weve been together for quite some time now.
Sounds like this guy is just using you and he knows that when he 'leaves' that youll be there waiting for him when he deicdes to reconnect again.
Also sounds like he found someone else too. You may love him, but it sounds like he may love the fact that he can come and go as he pleases without considering your feelings.
2006-08-28 19:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by feel_n_learn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is out screwing around on you from a mans point of view, I mean what..he just like "forgot" to tell you he was going on "college tour" for a month and a half. Wake up and smell the coffee
2006-08-28 19:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication, honesty, and trust are the building blocks of a good relationship.
If you want that kind of relationship, don't take him back. If you do, consider yourself forewarned of pain in the future.
He sounds like the kind of guy who would go to jail for not paying child support.
2006-08-28 19:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, go find another one. you don't deserve him. if he really cared for you then why didn't he inform you beforehand that he is going away for awhile and be back in a few days. left you alone wondering where he is or is he ok. what kind of a boyfriend is that? you deserve someone better. someone who will respect you. remember he has done it twice why wait for another hurt to come. in a relationship communication is very very important.
2006-08-28 19:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by willow marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I answer with my heart , I will say take him back because you love him. I know exactly how you feel, I 've been through this before..However, if I answer with my head. I would say be careful..I wouldn't take him back .. not just yet. he won't change . he will do thi s again and again because he knows that you will always take him back..but if you really want to take him back , just promise to yourself that this would be the last time you will ever do this!! and mean it.
2006-08-28 19:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends and let things develop again. If you take him back he knows that he can continue to do the same thing and you will take him back. Make him suffer, therefore he needs to see your worth.
2006-08-28 19:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. It sounds like he is playing the field and when he strikes out with the other team he keeps coming home to his 'sure thing". You are better than that and can do better than him.
2006-08-28 19:42:25 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋