I have a quesion to ask... If you know that you love someone but over time you are discovering that their sex drive and your drive is no where near the same what do you do?? Isnt it a common saying that what you cant get within a relationship you find elsewhere. I am really confused about this and need some real advice. I love her but what do i do???
2006-08-28 19:35:06 · 16 answers · asked by da_leeda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends on WHY you are with that other person. If you KNOW You are not going to marry them or remain in any long-term type of relationship then it really doesn't matter. Sex is very important part of an adult, mature relationship and when it doesn't match up, it can be quite difficult on the other person.
This is something that you two should seriously talk about because you might discover that you two have different expectations of one another. My question to you is that has the other person's drive lessened? Or has yours increased?
If you really love this woman this is something you'll sit down and talk about. Find out what's wrong. She might be going through some biological changes also. Stress at work or in your daily living can also impact sex drive. If she says "everything's fine" when it's clearly not and she's not willing to work that part of the relationship out, then you have a decision to make.
From my own personal standpoint, sex is such a HUGE part of my relationship, especially if it's anything serious that if our sex drives are too different I will not stay with that person. It's THAT important and studies have shown that couples that stay together longer have sex more often.
I hope this helps. :P
Rod Cortez
2006-08-28 19:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to talk with each other about this before you make any decision. Sure go ahead and masturbate while your waiting at least that's not cheating. But you should let her know the truth about how you feel. She may just be shy about approaching you, not wanting to be too aggressive. At the beginning of my marriage I would never initiate sex, I felt awkward being the one to demand something from my husband. We shared everything but when it came to this it was hard to change the way you are brought up in your family to be humble and submissive as women. Don't get me wrong I am not a push over but I "was" a little timid to ask for something sexually and I usually would tell him, "no" but I never had a choice (very traditional Hispanic marriage) and I have to admit that I ended up saying "yes!" in the end, to say the least. Talk to her and find out what's going on, maybe hormonal, and then make your life long decisions. Good Luck
2006-08-28 19:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u do one thing, do u know newton's IIIrd law, so u try 2 another gal easily 4 some time 2 play with u I mean 2 act with u 4 some a days infront of ur lover, do act 4 that what u want wid ur lover, than she wud be jealsy and will come 2 u.
2006-08-28 20:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A women is not a switch that you can turn on to satisfy your urge,Love making does not start a minute before the act but should be done over a period,for some ladies it could be 2 days or more so shower her with stacks of love and affection i am sure she's worth it
2006-08-28 19:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by bryte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just talk about it? Find a common ground. Things will definitely work out if you love each other enough to work it out.
2006-08-28 19:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by ginger n' spice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you dont do.....dont cheat. if you are not liking the sex with her, then if sex is what you care about the most, break up with her and find someone else! but if you love her then just try doing different things to make it more interresting. but dont cheat, that causes too many tears.
2006-08-28 19:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, the best way is to try to talk to her n discuss ur sex life openly with her, she must be aware of wat u dnt like n y u cnt appreciate her sex making. u must let her know frankly wats not to ur expectations n if possible tell her the ways she can improve n this applies for u too. best of luck...
2006-08-28 19:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may not like it because of how its been done to her in the past, she just hasnt been shown how to enjoy sex alot of girls have this problem, but if you are good, and make them enjoy it enough, they will want it more, or you could just try to cheat on them, that doesnt work, or tell her that you need it more, and she sould let you have another girl friend, that doesnt work very often either, so its up to you to really please her.....and make her want it more.....
2006-08-28 19:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by wizzard 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are up for a long life of sexual frustration, move on before you get attached to her .
2006-08-28 19:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by CallMeDigitalBob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to ask yourself is why do love her? is it because you want to have sex with her?
2006-08-28 19:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋