It's not that I'm unhappy with it, I just want to mix things up. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's the type that is content with just having it, which i don't understand. But he says there isnt anything that he wants me to do, that he is happy with what we do. I just can't imagine there isnt just one thing that he just wish he had, something that might drive him nuts. Anyone have any ideas?
2006-08-28 19:18:53 · 20 answers · asked by BLuez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try what Dr Laura does on her Showtime series do a surrender date where he has to do everything you tell him to and just come up with some things he never would have expected you to do sexually
2006-08-28 19:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by lopezjl137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he might be afraid to share his deepest, darkest fantasties with you. I'm assuming everything else in the relationship is going well right? Also major KUDOS for wanting to spice things up and mix it up, we need more women like you on this planet!
Here's a couple of suggestions. During the week ask him questions such as: "What's the best thing that I do to you?". "If you knew that nothing would offend me or disgust me, what's one fantasy that you would really want to have fulfilled?".
If he still doesnt' give you any feedback then tell him that this Saturday night (or a night where you both won't be too tired) tell him not to make any plans because you're going to play a game with him. It's called "You're King for One Night". Go out an buy a nurse's outfit or some lingerie. Then work it out so he has to leave the house for an hour or two and then when he gets back you'll have thelights off, candles on, and you'll come out wearing that outfit.
If he tries to say anything just say "SSSSsshhhhhh" and put your finger on his mouth. Tell him that you're going to take him into the bedroom (where you also have candles lit) and you're going to undress him. Push him on the bed so he lands on his back- gently. Then slowly remove his shoes. (I'm getting HOT myself just desribing this to you). Then remove his socks. Then take off his shirt slowly (save the pants for last). If he tries to resist continue with the "Shhhhh" so he knows you mean business. Then finally remove his shirt then his underwear. Then lead him to the bath tub where the water is already drawn and bath him.
I'm telling you if more women would do this for their men, they're be less cheating going on! And men too! But each person should have at least one night every couple of weeks where it's all about them! Ok, onward.....
Give him a bath, clean him up, join him if you want, but I'm sure you've already spent a lot of time getting ready yourself. Take him out of the tub, dry him up with a towel. Then lead him back to the bedroom. Then lean in and whisper in his ear "Ok, you're now the KING for tonight. You tell me what to do and I will do it, no questions asked......"
If he doesn't go for this...then call me!
Rod Cortez
2006-08-28 19:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into some sex toys. Problem with the toys is when you become too dependent on them. Try masturbating (with or without a toy) while he watches you. Try giving him a full-body massage without actually touching any private parts. I have some other suggestions, but I don't think I can write them here! I agree with you. Everyone needs a little spice now and then!
Okay, now that I see some of these other entries... something that I found drives my man crazy during oral sex -
while performing oral sex, place a condom-covered finger into his hole and gently stroke. Something else, pull his member up and use your tongue to lick around his balls and down near his hole. I promise you it will drive him crazy!
2006-08-28 19:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by daisy243 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I don't know what you two already do, but here are two things that might be a little different. If you are oral with him. while you are doing it, use your finger nails on the back of his testicles/scrotum. Don't injure him, just get his attention. Its a nice tender spot.
Another Idea is to have him have intercourse with you doggy style, and while he is doing it reach down between your legs and rub him and you off at the same time.
Maybe you haven't tried these yet
2006-08-28 19:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by lil'oleJewler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking about how you had a sex dream and tell him in detail what happened.
Then ask if he ever thought about something he'd like to try.
You can even write it down if you are embarrased.
2006-08-28 19:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Smartypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a e book noted as one 0 one nights of great intercourse. You or your spouse %. a financial ruin consistent with time money gender after which you're taking the financial ruin out of the e book and that's a depiction of what you like for the night. stable luck!
2016-10-01 01:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by raffone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loose 50 pounds.
2006-08-28 19:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by billlucas14all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes not comfortable enough to tell you, because everyone has fantasies, and he probably thinks his is wierd. I think the best thing you can do it tell him yours (especially if its kinda wierd) and see how he handles it. Than he might open up. or try some kinky **** and see what happens.
2006-08-28 19:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
threesomes are great, for both of you, just decide 2 guys or 2 girls, then go out and find one....it will be fun, for all 3 of you, or 4,
then there is the sex slave, you be his or visa versa if he wants to be the slave....
2006-08-28 19:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to have a fetish. Find out what it is, whether its having sex in a public place, you dressing up in fun sexy outfits, or oral sex, just find out what it is and it'll rock both your worlds.
2006-08-28 19:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋