It seems many who call themselves Christians today are some of the same people who embrace a lifestyle of banging random girls while single, and "commiting" themselves to one partner, only when in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Marriage is not about sex anymore, it seems to have been reduced to a meaningless instituion.
The culture decided that sex is natural and therefore good, so it seems that in the name of this, it has been trivialised. How did that happen, and why do so many would be Christians feel that they know better than the wisdom of the ages much less what has been taught as the will of their God for 2 millinia.
And beside that, what happened to a lifetime commitment to One other person. To share sex with one other person in life, till death do you part? When did this cease to be important?
2006-08-28 19:15:48 · 11 answers · asked by God Told me so, To My Face 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally agree with your point. Sex in marriage stopped being important when sex started occuring outside marriage. That's when 'recreational' and 'casual' sex became popular. So now when someone gets married to another person (unless they're virgins - which is becoming increasingly rare) they don't know how many other persons their partner has slept with. A man can penetrate a woman and think how many other penises have penetrated her! How many other womens' breasts has he touched, his wife can think! There is absolutely no consequences for the actions of people having sex while being unmarried. Teenage moms are rampant and they're basically kids who got pregnant because they didn't know enough about sex. Kids within a marriage aren't a problem if both partners are committed to each other but a single parent will face twice the head/heartache of having a kid by themselves. Marriage isn't all about sex but being exclusive to each other for sex during marriage is. Its great to be married to someone and know that they're your first (and hopefully last) and you're their first (and hopefully last!) and sex is something that you both are sharing and not for anyone else. And the more people do it outside of marriage, the more routine and boring it becomes....because they're not sharing it with someone speicial (their spouse) they're sharing it with someone how might leave them without getting a divorce or might dump them if the woman gets pregnant. The magazines are full of how to orgasm etc. the Yahoo answers are full of kids asking how to do this and that all because they feel free to experiment with each other without being married. If people stick to getting married and then having sex there will be no more worrying about STDs, or one night stands, periods being late etc. and all the other problems that come with having premarital sex.
2006-08-28 19:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should have nothing to do with Faith. Religion causes more problems than it fixes. It more or less out our natural instants. And we as a culture are getting married later in life. Were as 150 years a go Women were usually Wed by 16 and Men by 20, 100 years ago it was 18 and 25, 50 years ago it was about 20 and 25. then the 60's happened, lol. But most people are get married much later in Life. And marriage was never about sex. Its has been about Lust, Love, and Power. So if the only reason you get married is to have sex. You Should never get married. And Marriage is not a meaningless Institution, because you marry for love now, and it means a lot to people even if they have had Sex be for Marriage.
2006-08-29 02:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by brian h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Satan got a hold of todays society, and most teenagers are naive and are only foccussed on self-gratifaction.
I agree with you...sex should be the result and cementing of marriage, just as God intented it to be...people today veiw it as an activity, nothing more. The spirituality and emotional connection and bonding it creates between two people has been all but ignored.
2006-08-29 02:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cherished_Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage has never been about sex, but bravo on your poetic verbiage of marital relations. Not everyone has forgotten what a sacred and beautiful gift marriage is, or the emotional/spiritual/physical benefits of only being with one person (marriage partner).
The answer to your question is that it never ceased to be important, but the masses have ceased to acknowledge it as being so. What they will reap is diseases, depression, low self-esteem, detachment (a feeling of loneliness within themselves). It's sad, but most of them will not admit their folly even after experiencing first hand the results of their lack of reverence and good judgment.
2006-08-29 02:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
I share one thing with you.Marriage is not only for sex.But I wish to tell you that when God created a human being, it was for three purposes.The couples will be able
1. to attain their replacement
2. to help each other
3. to avoid adultery
If the couples build their life on the words of God, their marriage will be a life long partnership.God will bless them for their commitment to his words.But,like you and me we do not support them.Rather we discourage them as if they are leading ridiculous life.In fact ,a true christian life seems for those who lead worldly(secular) lifeas the life of the fool.But God has time for us to pay us according to our deeds.
This is so important as long us you are christian.
2006-08-29 03:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by girum_tadesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has only become important to the religious people, it never was, nor should it be,,,,we are just animals and have needs and wants that we should satisify as much as we see fit, on an indivual basis, not as dictated to us by some religious belifes, which may not be wrong, but may not be what is right for everyone, you dont see us complaining about your lifestyle, what gives you the right to force your belifes on us and our lifestyles....live and let live, dont try to ditcate to us your life....we must be better than you, because we dont do that......
2006-08-29 02:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has always been sex before marriage it just hasn't been publized until...i'd say the 80's and while yes waiting til marriage is better teenagers horomones say differently and to tell the truth if i had the choice i'd rather people have sex than drugs or drink
2006-08-29 02:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the bible it states that a man can have more than one partner as long as he provides for them all. women just want to be equal
2006-08-29 02:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by jobugg257 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Blame it on moral decline.
2006-08-29 02:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im waiting till marriage...it is important to me. i dont need to get on random guys. its so dirty and meaningless and useless. so yea..
2006-08-29 02:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋