I have been in love 5 times. My first cheated on me numerous times but I shook that off and was able to love again. Number 2 got another girl pregnant and left me for her. We got back together and I forgave him. Then I caught him in bed with his babys mothers cousin. We got back together. I wrote him everyday when he got locked up when he got out I didnt feel the same. Love was lost.Number 3 got locked up to a life sentence because he was selling drugs but I wasnt aware.4 left me and went to Atlanta then came back and expected me to take him back. I heard a girl giving him oral sex over the phone. The 5th is my baby daddy. He didnt tell me he had a girlfriend and she and I were both pregnant until I was 6 months. Why cant I feel? Can I change this horrible streak of bad? I dont look for love it finds me and now I am afraid to show affection. My heart is cold. What should I do? I always resume my life but each time I try to love its not as strong as before. At this rate ALONE I WILL BE
2006-08-28 19:09:31 · 9 answers · asked by Nicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always thought it was better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, but I'm not sure anymore.
I'm afraid the only advice I can give you is to not take crap from anybody. If they cheat, it's THEIR fault. You deserve better than you've got.
2006-08-28 19:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because love knocks at your door doesn't mean you have to let it in. You define the term of "love" too loosely, and probably fall in love too quickly and easily, without analyzing whether the person is worthy of what you have to give. You were in love with the feeling of being in love, and the details didn't really matter, because that's what love does- it blinds you to the truth and makes you see what you want to see, instead of what IS. Raise your standards, and don't be so quick to show all your cards to the first guy who comes along. It will take some time to learn to love again, but when the right guy actually comes along who isn't a cheating piece of sh*t, it will all come back to you naturally- just like riding a bike. Just give it time.
2006-08-29 02:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really tike some time for yourself and not love anyone right now. If you look back - you kept loving wrong people. Why is that? How to find the normal ones? How do you tell normal from abnormal. It is a protection mechanism - the fact that your heart gone cold. It's God's way of protecting you from yeat another Mr Wrong. Once you learn, you will find the right one.
Even if you're alone forever, it is better than being together with total jerk, heh?
2006-08-29 02:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shud give this whole dating thing a break. i think you either get in relationship so fast before you know the person so well, i think b4 you go in a relationship you should evaluate the person you want to go out with find out about them that way you can prevent incidences like not knowing whether they had a girlfriend or not .Don`t worry somewhere there is a right man just for you!!!! you just have to find him and one thing i think you forgive so easily give the guys a tough time or else they`ll think ur easy you just can`t keep going back to a man who cheats on you that aint right.......patience honey u`ll find ur man
2006-08-29 02:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by babeschick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're unconsciously looking for the wrong type of guy. There's a reason for this. While you're "out of the game", do some self-study and try to find out why you're attracted to losers.
It probably has something to do with your dad (or lack of one).
Be more picky. You deserve it.
2006-08-29 02:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you to stop dating scum?
Seriously. Most men are not like this. And men like this don't act this way in a vacuum. A man (unlike a woman) who is a scumbag, rarely acts normal. This is especially true of men who deal drugs and/or end up in prison.
2006-08-29 02:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to change what type of men you let in your life until you do that things are never going to change.look at what all these guys had in common i bet you will see the pattern if you look hard enough good luck
2006-08-29 02:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by bigrigdvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have loved to quick and to easy. Plus you might want to look for a differnet kind of man. Respect your self
2006-08-29 02:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of ur self
2006-08-29 02:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Rashil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋