Last Dec. I met up with a guy I went to school with overseas and we really felt "right" for each other. It got serious. When I visited this Aug. the first night he was very sweet, affectionate, even saying his parents wanted to have lunch. Out of fear and stupidity, I played it cool. I mentioned that a doctor friend was flying in to meet me, he didn't seem too thrilled. The next day we met for dinner and he was cold. When relationships came up he was snappy and basically said he wasn't interested in me anymore. I pretended to be happy that he had no expectations. He called once the next day to check in and asked, "how's your doctor?" but I didn't see him the rest of the trip, despite our plans. I called and cried about losing our friendship and he was pretty cold. When I got home, I wrote him telling him the truth about how I felt, but hasn't replied. I think he reacted out of jealously, feeling "played." I am visiting again in Dec. Please help sort this out. what can I do?
2006-08-28 18:24:39 · 3 answers · asked by ionah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to add that I know I acted foolishly, but at the same time, I tried to explain that this "doctor" was just a friend. I was not playing him, but I understand why he would feel that way. Plus, because he was being so cold to me, I truly believed that he no longer felt the same about me, so I shut off too. Because of the intensity of how we felt about each other only a few months ago, it's hard for me to believe that he suddenly feels nothing. I think, like you all have pointed out, that he is hurt and angry. I suppose he hasn't replied to my email because he feels that a girl who hurt him and doesn't even live in the same country isn't worth dealing with at the moment. I just want to know if he still has feelings for me, but I guess I'll never know. I want to be honest and open about what happened, but I don't think he's the type to open up about it. I think I love this guy and that we have a future together--what's my next step? Should I explain in another email?
2006-08-29 13:44:01 · update #1
Played? You mean played with,you tell a guy you're coming to see him in another country no less,he feels exclusive special even. Then you tell him you've got competition flying in in his time,a Dr.from the states.You just kicked him in the teeth and crushed what is inherently a fragile ego.HELL YEAH HE"S JEALOUS !
2006-08-28 18:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by tcbme56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your were visiting your boyfriend why did you need to meet up with this doctor? He probably felt uncomfortable. I think he was more hurt than Jealous. He may think you don't want a relationship with him if your going to be meeting other guys. You should just leave him a lone. Let him think it over for himself. He's probably confused and doesn't want to get hurt. If you hear from him then explain to him the situation and if don't hear from him then he wants to move on!
2006-08-28 18:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like he reacted as a hurt person.
2006-08-28 18:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋