Girls for dummies: sum1 please tell me basic/essential things i must know!!?

Question

ok, i am a guy, and as such, i do some really stupid crap without knowing it was the wrong thing to do until it is too late

i didn't know what question to specifically ask, so i asked a general question.

girls are so complicated and most of the time i have no idea how they think

so tell me some stuff you think is something i should know, so that i don't look like a dummy who is smart,handsome,and nice but doesn't know how girls work

anything appreciated

no i am not being sarcastic

yes i am SERIOUS

Answer 1

I wrote this to another dude on here earlier, thought it might help you too. In summary, stop respecting women. You let a child take advantage of you, they will mistreat you. The same goes for women, they hate guys they can walk over. Take the natural masculinity within you and dominate them with your virtue, intelligence, and superior willpower. Works for me every time. (And no, feminists, I don't mean rape them, morons):

Of course I see where they are coming from. I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or what. To me, women get alot of confidence boosting from these guys that go around hitting on girls. In reality, girls have a harder time getting a guy like myself, since I don't hit on girls, and neither do any friends I know. Your explanation probably only goes for the hottest girls, which most girls like to pretend to be. Some young female friends of mine will be hit on once or twice a year and pretend like they live in a world where guys don't stop pestering them - which is a method of self deceit to make themselves feel wanted.

I can put myself in a girl's position. If I was there, I would find a good, non-abusive guy, and **** his brains out. Sound simple? Then why do women continually date abusive and evil men? Why do women have interest in me only when I don't want them? What is it about neglect that makes women go crazy?

Us guys are judged on shallow things, just like women, so they have absolutely nothing to complain about.

If there is one kind of girl you are relating with, it is myspace-whore high school girls who think they are attractive because an acne-eaten punkish little kid hit on them last week. These girls pretend being hit on annoys them, while it really makes them feel great when it happens, since it happens very rarely, even to hot girls. I hope to god you are being sarcastic, or you can go no lower.

In summary, young women pretend to feel certain things so often that women sometimes lose touch with all but the most basic emotions that they have and are lost, I insist, LOST in a world of self-centered confusion, where they no longer even care to do what is right for themselves and other people. Girls who say they can relate to what you've written have no identity, no personality, and ought to be kept around only when sex is needed, never for any other reason, because they are barely human.

There is no reason to understand how girls think, and what their logic is, because they have no logic and rarely think. Many girls are driven by nothing more than emotion. If you want to get laid by alot of stupid, silly girls, you will understand this and recognize the girls who have personalities and separate them from the many who don't.

Answer 2

1. Don't kiss up to girls no matter what.

2. Don't act or behave NEEDY in anyway

3. Don't buy women drinks because it sends the wrong message.

4. Make sure you practice your social skills by going out, meeting and flirting with different girls.

5. Make sure the way your dress says the right things about you. Women generally don't like dirty shoes, holes in your clothes, and notice the details.

6. You must learn how to create ATTRACTION in a woman, something I can't really outline here, but not acting needy is a GREAT start.

7. When you initiate a conversation make sure you're not making it one-sided. If you're nice to a girl for no reason she's going to be suspicious already. So when you talk to a girl make sure once you've "opened" her that she holds up her end of the conversation. Otherwise, it's time to jet.

8. Don't take women out on dinner and movie dates. You should always do something like go for a walk or meet up for drinks at a bar or coffee shop. This way you get to KNOW her first and see if she's even someone you want to get to know.

9. Don't get stuck with TUNNEL VISION, otherwise you'll think you HAVE to make it work with ONE particular girl and nothing ruins a man's game like T.V. This is why you should be flirting and talking with other girls. You've got to practice your game.

10. Develop an interesting personality. You do this by being more social and knowing how attraction works. This means you have to get out and start meeting new people. A good thing to do is to go into a city where no one knows you, approach as many girls as you can, keep a notebook to take notes on what worked and then do it all over again.

I used to be so shy and suffered from panic attacks and this is what I did.

Good luck my man!

Rod Cortez

Answer 3

The problem is most girls change how they think daily regarding a boy or his actions. One day they want lots of time to talk , other days they need physical attention, little things like holding their hands, hugs etc.

They are on emotional rollercoasters so what worked yesterday may not work next week.

They are very sensitive to small details. Its not what you say but how you say it, how considerate you are, how genuine you are.

I personally think that if you really like a girl enough, you should be able to sit down and literally say, look I know everyone is different in what they like and dont like and I would really like to know what to or not to do around or with you. Find out what their pet peeves are in relationships, so you can avoid traps.

And come up with a neutral space to talk about stuff without reacting to each other right off the bat without hearing their whole issue all the way out.

Perhaps there can be a code phrase that says "This has nothing to do with you and I just need some space" so that you know not to push trying to find out what is wrong, and by being sensitive to that, you are actually showing how much you care by saying, I am here if you need me, but respect your need for space.

The list goes on and on and every girl is different.

I have been married for 18 years to my high school sweetheart I met when I was 14. Although we pretty much know each other inside and out, we still bump into doing stupid stuff or saying stupid stuff that we just didnt read the signs that it was the appropriate thing to say and to "this time" it might have been ok last time, but this time was not good. Make sense?

People could write books on this for you but none of it matters unless you get to know that particular girl better because we are as different as blades of grass most of the time.

Answer 4

1) There are reasonable chicks out there.

2) Many females are hard to comprehend, but not all.

3) Keep trying and you'll find one you can communicate with.

4) Just be open and honest. That's what you want from her, right?

5) Males and females are different. Let her be who she is. Be patient. Accept that you don't understand a lot.

6) Put everything in SLOW gear when you're with a woman (not just in bed, but ALL the time), unless she walks fast or something.

7) Listen a lot and ask a lot of questions. Most females love to talk, especially about their hopes and dreams and wishes and desires. Again, be patient!

8) Chicks love confidence above almost anything. But they love honesty more.

God help you, man.

Answer 5

uh, what are you trying to accomplish? As a girl, I find guys to be complex, just as you find girls to be.
I read stuff in magazines about how guys are supposed to act as such, and whenever I meet guys, every one is different. Only the a$$holes are like the ones they describe in the magazine articles.
Anyway...
What types of things do you do that you say is really stupid crap?

If you compliment the girl and treat her well, I don't think you can go wrong.

Don't come on too strong; you'll come off as desperate. Personally, I don't like a guy who acts aloof; I'd rather have a guy come out and say that they really have fun hanging out with me, or really like being together, you know?

I think the biggest turn-offs for me are when a guy either comes on too strong, and starts saying weird, inappropriate stuff, like how they like to spank their monkey or something...
Secondly, when a guy is so shy that it makes the girl doubt her attractiveness or even self-worth.

Hope this helps, not quite sure what you're looking for.

Answer 6

The most important thing to remember is to be confident. What does that mean? Walk like you've won an Oscar and your going up to the podium to make a speech. Speak with a manly voice.

Don't be nice. What I mean by this is be a challenge. Show her something she has never seen before but at the same time don't be creepy. For example, when you see her tell her something like, "hey I like your seven's" and she will say "thanks" then you say "it seems like everyone has sevens now I even saw the janitor at my school wearing a pair."

What your doing is building her up and then taking her back down again. Where as most men would say "you like nice!" Screw that she has heard that 10 million times.

Lastly show her that you have passion in your life. You have goals that you work hard to accomplish. You don't just sit at home and answer questions on Yahoo! Answers all day. If you want to know more email me.

Answer 7

Well first off most females want to be treated as individuals, probably much like guys want to be treated. We want respect and we prefer to be with a guy who has at least half a brain in the head on his shoulders rather than in the head between his legs. Girls aren't all that complicated, it's just that guys are rarely as interested in what we enjoy as they are in getting into our pants. Stop trying to jump our bones once in awhile and try just talking.

Answer 8

I have some excellent advice that women hate to hear.
-Women are less interrested in you the more you're interrested in them. If you act as if they don't matter they'll be obsessed with you.
-Treat a woman just like an angry bear, stand tall, don't break eye contact and never let them think they can take you and you won't get mauled.
-Women chase men with money. Their need for security is greater than their attaction to beauty or their need for emotional fulfillment. Women who insist that they would never date a man for money are usually the worse offenders.
-Every woman loves to get gifts and be treated to expensive dates and no woman ever has sex with a man who gives them what they love.
-Women are attention whores by nature. Take any truism aboot men and sex and replace the word "sex" with "attention" and you'll have ironclad truisms about women. Women want attention from many different people. Women are happier if they had attention the night before and it shows in their posture and facial features. Some women like kinky attention but other do not. Left to their own devices women would have attention until they passed out from exhaustion.
-No woman will ever be honest with you about what she wants. The less you listen to what they say and the more you pay attention to what they do they better off you'll be with women.
-Focussing your life on being perfect for women will make you lonely and frustrated, focussing yourself on making yourself perfect will make women flock to you.

Answer 9

really you don't need to go out looking for a girl to be with. The girls that will really make you happy will end up being right in front of you. Fate works that way.

Just, don't always think that you're right about everything. And please learn patience, it can become a very helpful tool when trying to share your life with someone else.

Answer 10

Well for starters when you say your going to call, "CALL"
2. when a girl says sure i don't mind, they lying
3when you say your going to do something, :"DO IT"
4. we like doors opend for us.
5. we can never get enough of: your beautiful.
6.we don't care to hear about your di*k size a million times.
7 don't be a tight wod on dates.
8. when we say we need more affection, we don't mean s*x.
9. don't refferr us as "my old lady" when introducing us to your friends.
10.the woman is always right no matter what & don't argue cuz it will get you know where.