First off I am currently 8 hours away from her, but i travel there anyways once a month for my family and friends. I am nearly 19 and she is 18, and ive liked her for more then 1 1/2 years, and its been a year since i asked her out last and i got the ol just friends answer. Now, lately I have been seeing her alot lately, and we hang out together alone nearly the whole time we are together and she has gotten very comfortable with me and I feel like shes giving me signs, but because I was wrong the first time I'm sketchy with this, could just be my imagination. Should I take the chance and ask her, even though im scared she will say no if i ask because she might feel pressed for an answer, or that i may hurt her cause I'm more reckless then her. Its also worth noting that i have dated alot of girls, but i can't get over this one, shes never dated, also her parents really like me. Im scared I will hurt her. please give answers including and also excluding the distance factor
2006-08-28 18:19:18 · 13 answers · asked by college_kid491 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since both of had gotten comfortable w one another.. I will advise u to ask her.. dun be afriad of rejections.. in the end.. u 2 can still be frens... so no matter what the outcome.. nothing bad is going to happen... if she feel the same thing for u but waiting for u to ask... and u ask.. i think it will blossom to somthing good. Go for it... dun worr about distance factor... cos I think that love cross all boundaries....
2006-08-28 18:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by veramira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it is that you guys are really good friends and she feels comfortable with you. Girls do tend to flirt with those they are comfortable with... just to let you know, you run a big risk of losing her as the close friend she has become by asking her to commit to you. Keep her as a friend and let it take its course. no one says that you have to ASK her out, Ease into it . Call her up when you know you'll be coming to town and say hey, I'm gonna be in town this weekend, ya wanna go out and do something? Who knows, you may even decide that she's not the one for you after spending enough time with her and that you are better off being friends for now. Give it time, because if you say her parents like you, they sher wont if you hurt their little girl. You are both still young, and instead of stressing over this, have your fun and get it out of your system while you're away and do friend things when you're with her. Keep it casual, don't make it seem lke a "date." She sounds pretty important to you, and if you dont want to hurt her, spending time with her is just what you need to make sure SHE'S who you really want and its not just a comfortable connection to Home.
2006-08-29 02:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by johnnysgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that I had alot more to answer....like a long answer that would take up more space...but I read everything you said, and I would say to just ask her. If she says no, you'll be friends still anyways. If she says yes, you'll be happy and will just have to take it as it comes like the rest of us. Loves never simple, but you'll never have it unless you try. Go for it, it'll be ok!
2006-08-29 01:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give anything for another chance with the guy i told i wanted to be just friends...you'll never know if you dont ask. If she says yes, thats awesome...if she says no, then you can move on without always wondering what she would have said.
2006-08-29 01:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥love2havefun♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel - you'll regret it for years to come if you chicken out. Don't be pushy, but keep talking with her. The distance isn't that much of an issue.
2006-08-29 01:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a clue, she does not want to be with you, move on!
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2006-08-29 01:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of you wasting your time writing all of this, just go ask her out.
The worst thing she can do is say, "No."
Life is a risk, if you don't take it, you will have "what if" hanging on you, maybe for the rest of your life.
Just ask her out. End of discussion.
2006-08-29 01:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance is meaningless. you have absolutely nothing to lose. if she has already said no and is a better friend, then you will not lose her friendship by asking her again if she decides it is not a good time to give it a go. and you might be pleasantly suprised. go for it and good luck.
2006-08-29 01:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you and how strongly you feel for her. if there is strong feelings for her then its worth the travelling isnt it. read more on dating and relationships that will help you on this site
2006-08-29 01:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should ask her out again
but dont scare her by saying I LOVE YOU as yet
2006-08-29 01:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋