How long did it take to get over your pet?

Question

I had to bury my cat of 7 years today. cried like a lil' girl...

Answer 1

I'm so sorry, and crying isn't just for girls it takes a real man to cry at a great loss. Animals can be just like adopted children we love them unconditionally, we choose them, and they love us with out question. Unlike children they don't go thou the terrible twos or the teenage years they are just pure love. So you moaning over the lose is touching and normal. Having been an animal lover all my life and losing more than a couple I can tell you it really does help to find another animal to love. I recommend adopting from the animal shelter. Saving a life that would have been lost is a wonderful way of honoring your pets life. Spend sometime and don't get one until you "click". It wont replace what you lost but it opens your heart a little wider every time and makes the lose a wee bit easier! Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for you! Honestly, I lost a beloved cat 11 years ago that I still miss, doesn't hurt like it did at first but I still think of and miss him. If you have pictures of the cat, gather them together into a book you can look through when you're feeling bad, it helped me. After a while, if you feel up to it, think about getting a new cat. Lots of good pets are in shelters and need a loving home. Took me two years to be willing to try again but now I have three. They get to be just like family, don't they?

Answer 3

Hi there...my heart goes out to you. Everyone responds so differently to bereavement when it comes to our pets. Although time heals the intensity of the pain I truly don't know if this disappears entirely rather only hurt less. Everyone I've spoken to about this either seems to experience feeling numb, some perfectly fine after adopting another pet where others still miss their loved one even years later. Please allow yourself time to grieve. It's okay to feel this sorrow for your cat and the memories and bond you two shared.

Below are a couple weblinks which I hope you will find comforting during this difficult time if you would like to share with others who are experiencing a recent loss as well.

Answer 4

I lost my 13 year old cat about 2 years ago .. and I never got over it .. always remebering it and feeling so alone she was my little baby .. seeing it all over the house .. yes she was my baby and friend
a year ago my sister got me a cat .. although I thought that I do not want to get any more pets but beleive me it worked .. not in forgetting but maybe in feeling that I have a cat that keeps me remembering my first one .. part of the guilt I had is the fear of forgetting that cat but now I feel better with the thought .. I never forgot my first .. the second one helped me remembering her .. when you get over the grife try to occupy yourself ang get a cat!! having one dead does not mean you did something wrong
hope you'll get used to the idea soon

Answer 5

Sorry for your loss. Can take awhile, normal grieving process. I cried for 3 days when my dog got hit by a car. Cried for days when I had to put my 20 year old cat down. They're part of the family.

Answer 6

1st, i am very sorry about your cat, and although i never had to do what you did, i did have to give up a pet, and i felt horrible like i'd never see him agian, now, i no this is not helping much, but still, and to answer your question it all depends on how close you and your cat were, give it time, you will never be completely over your cat, but you wont be sad like you are now,i personally think that the best way to feel better about a loss is to get another friend,not to replace your old cat, but just to help, and once again, i am very sorry about your cat

Answer 7

I lost my yorkie Hijinx to cancer 6 months ago. I had him for 12 years. It was like losing a child. Some people do not understand that they are a part of your life, not just an animal. Hijinx was the last thing my mother gave me before she died, also of cancer. I don't think you every really get over their death so much as accept it. There is a poem called The Rainbow Bridge that says that they are waiting for us there.
ps: I just got a new 'baby', not the same but worth it.

Answer 8

My previous cat died a little over a year ago of a brain tumor and I'm still not totally over it. But the 2 boys that I have now help a lot...

Answer 9

Sorry about your loss. When my cat of 15 years passed (my one and only childhood pet--other than fish of course) I was DEVISTATED!!!! I felt like I couldn't even function. It took me three years to get another pet. I have to say that I still think of him every day...I have his picture on my desk at home and at work. Some people think it's silly, but they really become family.

Answer 10

When my dog died, I felt like I had lost a child. She succumbed to a fast-growing tumor that ate out her leg and I had to take her in and put her down once the wound became so extensive that pieces of bone was sticking out of it. It has been 4 months and I still become emotional about her. She was my baby that I raised from puppy and she spent time with me while I was away at college.