I met a much older guy at church. His mom and mine are good friends. His first wife died 10 years ago, and his second wife divorced him 1 year ago. We didn't get to talk with each other until his mom was seriously ill. Some time after his mom past away, I started to notice little things he did. He chooses to sit at the same side where I sit at church. When I switched side, he did the same. He casts glances at me when I interact with others. Day before yesterday as he was on his way home, his eyes were fixed on me although he was answering someone else's questions. I don't know if this could mean that he's begun to take an interest in me. What do you think? Your help is appreciated.
2006-08-28 18:14:42 · 8 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he has begun to take an interest in you. His first wife died 10 years ago and his second wife divorced him a year ago. The best way to probably handle this is to be "friends"; that's it; at least for now. Find out more about him as a friend would. As time goes by and you know him better then see if he's really the individual you would want to be romantically involved with. But, I stress time ... let time tell you what he's really like.
Since you are a church goer, allow God to speak into your heart and your spirit and see what He thinks. If this man is truly the one God has had you to meet so that down the road you're to be romantically involved up to and including marriage, then he shouldn't have any problems at all with that. If you ever feel "pressured" to do things you're not ready for, then I don't think he's the man for you. But allow time and God to speak to you about this ... sometimes it comes from mothers ... but just take your time. You do what you feel is right and what God is saying. Lastly, insure that it is God who is speaking into your spirit and not your "hopes" and "ideas".
2006-08-29 06:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by topper_9090 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is most important is not if he is interested in you but are you interested in him.
How old are you? How old is he?
Does the age difference mean anything to you now? Will the age difference mean anything to you 10 or 20 years from now?
Does it matter to you that he was married twice before?
Why did you change sides? Were you avoiding him?
How did you feel when he seemed to follow you?
How do you feel when you notice him looking at you?
Do you like the idea? Are you comfortable with him looking at you? Why aren't you or him talking to each other?
Or are you troubled by it?
Why aren't you or him talking to each other?
You need to answer these questions.
If you are an adult and you think you would like to know him better than communicate that to him verbally.
Please remember that a HEALTHY relationship is not based on glances and stares it is based on good honest communication.
2006-08-29 02:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Here & Now 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be interested in you, but with a widower/divorce, it might be in your best interest to take it slowly with this guy. If he was divorced just a year ago, he may still be dealing with that, and rushing into something could be disastrous for the two of you as well as your moms. Take your time getting to know him, and see how your relationship develops. If something comes of it, that's wonderful, and if not, then at least you'll have made a great new friend.
2006-08-29 01:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is his is kind of building a wall. First wife died, second gone and his mother past away. He has a wall that HE doesn't want to take down yet. So much has left him. He feels that if he stays were he is he will never have to worry about getting hurt. The side hoping is cute. He wants to get your attention but again doesn't want to get hurt. He wants you to come to him, but yet I think that its the man that should go to the woman.Make an attempt to sit beside him or just spend some time and talk to him.
Try to get to know the inner man. He will open up to you.
It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
2006-08-29 01:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! he is definitely interested in you. When he looks at you he thinks your very special. A guy can notice when a girl is decent and he sees that in you. I think you should talk to him. He sounds like a nice gentleman. Become friends first and from there you never know where it may lead. Love can happen in mysterious ways! Good luck.
2006-08-29 01:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away, you have no business messing with this mans head. Go to church and pray for forgiveness. Why would you think such things whilst in a church anyway???
2006-08-29 01:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Demelza S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it to me
2006-08-29 01:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rrf00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he does have a love interest with you but take it slow and ask him about it see wat he says then u can make up your mind on wat u think is right
2006-08-29 01:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋