Whenever my girlfriend and I are fooling around I just cant seem to reach orgasm. When I masturbate Im able to do it really fast though. It feels good while she's doing it though so its not that shes doing something wrong
2006-08-28 18:08:51 · 12 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Performance anxiety???
2006-08-28 18:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're mechanically able to climax but have difficulty doing so with your partner it may be just your general comfort level with them or it could be that you're dealing with performance anxiety when you're having sex with them. I'd suggest you try to shake things up. Try something new with them, especially anything mentally engaging in bed such as roleplay or sensory deprevation. The other posibility is that you're just too accustomed to the pleasure of your own hand, the solution there is simple. Stop masterbating for a while and have more sex. Your body's need for sexual release will do what it needs to to achieve release and you'll get accustomed to the feel of a woman around you again.
2006-08-28 18:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't concentrate on an orgasm. Just relax and enjoy your girlfriend. The more you concentrate on the orgasm the harder it is to reach it. Just enjoy the process.
2006-08-28 18:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by trillionaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I have never heard of a man that couldn't get an orgasm....maybe you have a mental block or something?
2006-08-28 18:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say performance anxiety or perhaps she needs to do her kegels.....never had that problem unless the guys was drinking all day...and all night!
2006-08-28 18:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this depends partly upon whether you are male or female. i personally find it necessary to have shoes off and feet plantar-flexed.... and think about something that turns you on, even if it may be "taboo". for example, think about being beaten brutally, or think about roller-coasters, or whatever does it for you.
have fun!
2006-08-28 18:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by myid98902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subconsciously, you might be afraid she will get pregnant??? I have known guys like this before.
2006-08-28 18:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by LuvyDuvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to relax. maybe you are embarrassed to *** in front of your girlfriend.
just relax, and keep on trying, it will eventually happen for you.
2006-08-28 18:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by lilou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your cellmate that you want to stop being the girl.
2006-08-28 18:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have a threesome with a black girl.
2006-08-28 18:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋