if you are married help me please!?

Question

i think my wife had sex with my friend what should i do

Answer 1

Ask your friend. If he's a true friend, then he'll tell you.
If it turns out that he's lying to you, then dump them both.

Answer 2

What makes you think that? Before or after you two were married?

If it's just gossip at work or somewhere, ignore it. You should trust her more than the rumors of idle people.

If there is some evidence, then you need to talk to her. Find a time when there are no distractions. Ask her if she would be willing to have a serious talk. Ease into the subject. Tell her why you think what you do. Where you got your information. Who told you this (if someone did). What you feel, and how hurt you are.

Guilty or not, she'll probably be upset and angry. Trust is a fragile, but important, thing in a marriage. Since yours is already damaged, it will be hard to repair no matter what happens. If you two can't find a solution by talking it out, then I suggest a counselor. A therapist or clergy member can help see the problem and find a solution.

If she was cheating, what was the reason and why she chose to do it. If you two were happy in your marriage, neither one would stray. There was something missing. Whenever people say that their spouse just didn't "satisfy" them, or they needed to feel "loved" or whatever, it's a bad way of saying that they were unhappy. Find out why, then see if it's something you two can fix. Then dump the friend fast. Real friends wouldn't sleep with their friends spouse.

If she wasn't, then find out why you suspected her. An ugly rumor or false gossip may have planted the idea, but the distrust had to be there for you to believe it. If there is a good reason, like she's done somethng before that was dishonest, then tell her. She needs to know that she screwed up. If she wants to fix it, then it will take a lot of work on her part. Even the smallest lie can cause the mistrust that you are feeling, even if it's not true that she cheated.

Whatever the outcome, it's better to face it now than later when the distrust and bad feelings have grown to out of proportion. A few more months or years will only make it worse, not better. Talk to her, get some outside help if needed. But don't let it fester.

Answer 3

I would confront her, it may bother you but at least the truth will be out in the open if she admitted the fact that she did it with your friend. You need a good counselor to help you out. A cheater will always be a cheater. Get a good lawyer if that does not help you. Save your finances specially if you both have a lot of asset involved. It can get nasty after that. Good luck.

Answer 4

They say if you believe it, and not just in a jealous crazy way but ACTUALLY believe it to be true then it doesn't matter if it is, the damage is already done. You don't trust her and you will end your relationship by confronting her.

So since there is no trust and your relationship is suffering from your suspicions and her behaviour, you should definitely talk to her and decide together if you are ending the relationship.

Why waste time when love is lost?

Answer 5

U just think she had sex with ur friend... right?

Y don't u ask her head to head if its true.... seeing her reaction, u will know.. u may also talk about it with ur friend n ask them both to tell the truth.. n if they r affirmative, then tell them to leave happily n that u won't come in their way. It's the only way u can do to prevent them from having fun behind ur back. Try to know the truth b4 u make any conclusion. Good luck

Answer 6

I would take your wife aside and confront her calmly on the subject and explain to her how you feel and your suspicions. I would also confront your friend also. Also their body languages, will tell you whether they are telling you the truth or not. If your wife did have intercourse with your friend and admits it, give her an ultamatium and forgive her. If she keeps it up, then it's time to tell her to hit the road if she can't be faithful to you.

Answer 7

Honesty is the key to a good marriage. So step up and be the hero in this situation and simply ask her if she is happy with you. Tell her you are concerned and worried, ask her if she is interested in a relationship with someone else. But don't accuse her of having sex - because if she didn't do it, you are in for a world of hurt for thinking she did!

Answer 8

Make sure your thinking with your brain and not your emotions, consider the source of your information, and if you still feel that its true ask your wife and remember friends are important but your relationship with your spouse is most important. WORK IT OUT BROTHER

Answer 9

Get rid of her!
But do this first before you do.
Are you able to forgive her? If she is willing to change?
Then you can try the strike 3 you out approach.

If so give her some time and hire a detective if necessary to see if it happens again, if it does...then kick her out of the house, we are only human.

You can also try to take her to church and see if there are any amazing transformations...


Peace...

Answer 10

Look for more evidence before you confront her...she is not going to tell you if you ask, until you have the cold, hard evidence in her face, she is not going to fess. If she did cheat on you, she was wrong, but to do it with your pal, is terribly out of line. The truth will be around you...you will know.

Answer 11

So many people cheat. Demand that she come clean and get counseling. Find out why she felt the need to do it and also how she can regain the trust. I'm really sorry.