I live in TN, she lives in CA. My whole family lives in CA, My dad met her yesterday and really likes her, he is giving me the green light to get married on Sept 4th. I have been talking to her for about 3 months and have seen her on webcam. never met her in person...
I think this is totaly crazy, but I like the idea,
has anyone done this before or what are your thoughts
Thanks
2006-08-28 17:58:27 · 16 answers · asked by Jimmy1575 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think its great and I wish all the best for you and your CA girl. You two are crazy, thats for sure, but it sounds like you're both into it, so hopefully it all works out for you. Best wishes!
2006-08-29 01:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've met someone on the internet before. We didn't get married, but we're sure as hell glad we didn't. We talked for hours and hours online, and I couldn't believe that this wasn't the perfect match for me.
Then we met in person, and we were two different people. We didn't get on at all.
So unless you're prepared to continue the marriage through webcam, you should meet up first and decide whether you like each other in the flesh, and whether you can spend hours of physical time together. Otherwise, you might be divorced by the end of September.
2006-08-29 02:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by blowski 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea to marry someone you've never met in person. The divorce rate is high enough as it is.
Internet relationships can work, however. My husband and I met online 4 years ago. But we also dated (saw each other in person one weekend a month) for 2.5 years before I moved to where he lived.
2006-08-29 07:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well def spend some time with her in person before deciding to marry her. But it can work. I met my hubby online and we talked for 2 weeks, dated a month, then got married 3 weeks later, and have been married for 3 years.
2006-08-29 01:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by beachbebe_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're right about one thing: this is totally crazy. How old are you anyway? Why does your father decide for YOU. Why Sept. 4th, is that when your trip to Disneyland is?
Man, you better get serious real fast, before you make a BIG mistake!
2006-08-29 05:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by MrZ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of two occasions on seperate message boards where a similar situation occoured. One case worked out with a happy marriage, and another is an engagement. You should meet her and get to know her a bit more before marraige, though if you love the woman, and know what you're getting into... as always, it's up to you.
2006-08-29 01:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there, i haven't done it myself but my uncle did.
he lived in Australia and she lived in the US. he spoke to her for about 6 months before flying up there to meet her. now 1 year later they are married and very happy. it is a massive risk you don't know that to expect, even if you have seen her and your dad has given the tick of approval. you don't know what her personality is like or what she is like when she is angry. You don't know a thing. my suggestion to you is, first fly down there or she fly to you meet her. spend a couple of months with her. than get married.
i wish you all the best and i hope she is that dream girl.
2006-08-29 01:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by holdengirl005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should spend some time with her first. If all is good, then you can go for it. I know a few people who met over the net and are still happily married.
2006-08-29 01:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP.
Bad idea. You may get along fine, but in person the $hit may hit the fan.
Meet each other, date for a while. Then after living close to one another (enough to interact in person everyday) maybe then you can get married.
2006-08-29 10:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP!!! You are in lust not love. Live with her for a year or two before you even think about marriage and don't get her pregnant. It is so much easier to kick someone to the curb when your not married.
2006-08-29 01:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋