My father in law is very neglectful to my 3 yr old son. He visits very rarely, but lives in the same small town as us, when he does visit, he often compares my son to his youngest grandson, and makes remarks that I think a 3 year old could not comprehend as "playing" ie: "you are a crybaby", "you watch to much tv" He can never say anything good about my son or to my son or give him any praise. He also will make remarks about my parenting ie:"you need to take him outside more", and frankly, he wouldn't know anything about it because he is never around to know if I do or do not, and his "favorite" grandson's mother is a stripper and his father cheats on his mother while away from work........why does he question my parenting? and why does he compare my son to his cousin? My mother in law, who he is divorced from him says he mentioned to her how bad he feels......do you think it is possible for a man to feel bad and not try to talk to us, it has been a month or more since confrontation.
2006-08-28 17:50:30 · 5 answers · asked by Lesley C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think your issue is reall yabout whether on not this grandpa "feels" bad. Unfortuneatly you do not know his motivation for saying that to his ex wife. The important part is that your son needs you to be his champion and protector from this negativity and abuse. (Constant verbal putdowns is abuse). I don't think that you should give much thought to a reconciliation until this "grandpa" starts actually PROVING to you and your son that he feels bad and that he regrets his behavior . (which means also changing his behavior!). I don't think you will be able to logically understand what his reasons are for favoring the other family members. Just make sure your son is loved and cared for and not exposed to such a creep.
2006-08-28 18:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why he is questioning your parenting...could he be right and the kid is watching too much television? Frankly at three anything over a couple hours a day IS too much. How often does the child get outside, how often does he interact with other children? Is he a crybaby? Do you hand him whatever he wants just to keep him from crying, just to keep him from whining? Since all you have done is complain about your father in law without giving any other information it isn't easy to tell you what might be going on.
2006-08-29 01:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
He is just a bitter old man trying to get a rise out of you, ignore him. Better if he doe's stay away from your son if that is how he is going to treat him.
2006-08-29 02:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he is a bully & he doesn't care that he has hurt your son & your feelings at all. we have such a person in our family that doesn't care about our feelings either.your father in-law is missing out on both of your lives because of his own ignorance & stupidity.
2006-08-29 02:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ther is something wrong with you r father in law...Phsically I mean...Don't jump to conclusions until you find out....Have him go to a doctor for a checkup ....There could be alot of reasons for him to be acting this way
Stop thinking of your feelings and think of him
2006-08-29 01:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋