without making her cry
2006-08-28 17:40:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to dump her, bring a really attractive guy friend to hit up on her in front of you. You know what kind of guys she's into so make sure your friend has similar characteristics like you.
Little by little your friend will seduce her and take her away from you. Then she wont cry because she'll have someone else and you're home free.
2006-08-28 17:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by zebo007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... the best way to dump her is to be direct and forthcoming. Don't make up excuses, don't lie, and don't sugar-coat it to make her feel better. She will probably cry anyway so prepare for that. And last but not least, don't give her any idea that there 'may' or 'might' be a possibility that you two can work things out or give it another go in the future because that just gives her false hope. Trust me, it will hurt her but she will be better off. Take my advice because I have dumped and been dumped and this is the best way. And P.S. NO BREAK-UP SEX!
2006-08-29 00:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by prairiefire_14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO this isn't a fair question to ask. We live in the real world and you're going to do many things that will feel uncomfortable. You're going to break up with people and they are going to get upset. I think what you're really asking is how to let her down gently, right?
It really depends on WHY you're breaking up. However, you shouldn't let it go on too long. It's much better to break up sooner rather than letting it go for too long because then she will think everything is OK.
As a general rule of thumb, she doesn't need to necessarily know the specific reasons why you are breaking up with her, such as, if you met someone else I wouldn't bring that up right away. Just tell her something like "Lisa, I've been thinking a lot about this and I've decided that it's best that we remain friends. I've decided that I no longer want to be in this relationship for..."
And then insert your reason there. Some guys just stop talking to girl and no longer call her. That's the chicken@#$ way out and no real man does that. Just man up, tell her you're breaking it off, but be gentle about it. If she's gonna cry, that's NOT your problem. It's unavoidable. In reality, she's going to eventually get over you and move on. I've broken up with a lot of women and MOST of the time they are understanding. They migh cry, they might not like it, but when you're gentle about it and let them know it's really the best for both of you, it's a whole lot better and a more mature way of dealing with it.
Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it too. Welcome to the real world of dating. :P
Good luck my man!
Rod Cortez
2006-08-29 00:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never make excuses! Be a man and tell the truth, it will show your charactor. Would you enjoy hearing a excuse if the shoe was on the other foot? Remember! Treat other's the way you would want to be treated.
2006-08-29 00:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by bckatcha! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best answer,be gentle but be honest.Just remember with some women when you break up with them,you may want to do it in private so you don't have the emotional outburst that can embarrass both of you .And other women you may want to move to another state ,some can be a bit violent.
2006-08-29 00:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to make excuses.be real and honest. i guess that would lessen the impact on the girl that you're not interested in her than making lies to cover up the real thing. there's a saying that the truth hurts but it will set you free. so be real and sincere. the more you try to cover things for the intention of not hurting someone the more you will hurt the person.
2006-08-29 00:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest- tell the truth- no excuses! The tears are inevitable, no matter how you break it to her. Girls are just sensitive that way. So at least be tactful enough to be honest if you're going to break her heart.
2006-08-29 00:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...idt there is a way, without making her cry I mean. Just tell her you don't like her like that anymore and that you wanna be friends. She won't cry right then, but I betcha' (if she really liked you) she will cry that night. It's in our nature, it's just the way we are.
2006-08-29 00:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by lady_buss_54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why make up an excuse just be honest with her on why you don't want to be with her anymore not being honest with her would mean that you don't want to be honest with yourself.
2006-08-29 00:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that the two of u have had tons of fun but u just dont feel the same spark anymore
2006-08-29 00:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋