I have heard that you should have your family pass along information about where you are registered and that it is not proper to include the information along with your wedding invitation.
What way is correct?
2006-08-28 17:19:09 · 22 answers · asked by angie lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
One NEVER publicizes one's own registry. That is rude. It doesn't belong in your wedding invitations, on your website, or in a mass email.
If your shower is hosted by a non-family member (really, all showers should be), then it is BARELY acceptable for them to include the registry info with the shower invitations.
Other than that, really you should just tell your parents and maid of honor, and it spreads from there by word of mouth. And if someone asks you directly, you can tell them the info. But you need to wait to be asked, then you can say "Oh, we registered for a few things at gaiam.com, but I'm sure whatever you choose to give us will be just lovely."
2006-08-30 10:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is VERY poor etiquette to include registry information in the invitation. It is implying that they better be bearing gifts, not just that you want them to share your special day. Registries are for showers, which were given for the purpose of giving gifts to help set up the couple's new home.
It's best to just spread the word to family and the bridal party as to where you are registered, and let wedding guests ask for that information!
Please don't do something tacky!
Best of Luck!
2006-08-30 08:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shower Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the Emily Post book, it is NOT proper to list gift registry with the wedding invite. It should only go in the shower invites. Nowadays people can just search a couple of the typical stores and find out themselves where you are registered anyways. Or just have your family pass it around by word of mouth.
2006-08-29 00:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to everyone who is going to tell you its rude. ITS A WEDDING! People know you are wanting gifts! DUH! Why not make it easy for them to find you the right gift! You don't want to get a bunch of things you don't need do you? My cousin had a wedding and didn't include the registry info, my family must be weird or something, but they were upset. Nobody knew where they registered at. I included the registry info on my wedding invites. I got almost everything on my registry, and nobody thought it was tacky. But, like I said, maybe its just my entire family (hundreds of them) that's different. We included that valuable piece of info in our wedding invites. Whoever came up with its rude.... I do not know.
2006-08-29 06:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't include it with the invitation - it is really tacky. Sometimes, people will contact the family members or friends to see if they know what the couple wants/needs - then it is proper to let them know. The gifts are not the reason for the wedding!!!
2006-08-29 03:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not send registry info in the invite. Think about it, wouldn't it sound greedy?
Let all your family know. People will call your parents to find out the info (It's the way it's always been done, so people will know to come to them.).
As for shower invites you can include the info because the shower is not thrown by the bride (In other words, she isn't asking for gifts for her, the MOH is.).
2006-08-29 03:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IT is very tacky. Cause it says you expect gifts. (even though you do). Tell your wedding party, and they can pass along the information. Or consider setting up a webpage about your wedding, and include the URL, that way people can find the info, but still look at pictures, and history about you and your fiancee. Im not sure of the name but theres quite a few websites that are specifically set up to host wedding webpages. My friend did this it worked sooo well for anyone who has questions.
2006-08-28 18:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by beachbebe_03 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You heard right. Its very rude to include registry information with the invitation. That information should spread by word-of-mouth. Besides, most people will bring a money card anyway.
2006-08-29 02:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't include it, its tacky. You aren't supposed to ask for gifts. However, ask I just told my daughter who got married in June, people EXPECT to give gifts. Put those little registry cards in the shower invitations (well provide them for your friends to put in the shower invitations because that is SUPPOSED to be a female gift giving ritual), but act like you would be perfectly happy if everyone simply attended your wedding because you WANT them to be there.
Your mother and new mother in law to be as well as your bridesmaids are responsible for making sure that those who want to celebrate with giving you a gift know what you want/need. Money and gift cards are always easy and appropriate.
Congratulations!
2006-08-28 17:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Put the gift registry with the shower invitations, not the wedding invitations - it looks very tacky otherwise.
2006-08-29 02:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋