I ran into a old botfriend and he later asked someone for my number. I didnt and was not looking for romance or anything near it cause I had just ended a bad marriage. well we started talking one night and one thing led to another. we started dateing and he even took me around all his family and i would even stay @ his moms w/him and we even started going to friends houses together BBQ's and other functions. we would drive all over town together i would drive his car and he mine we would leave for weekend get aways all the stuff couples do you know?. but one day i ran into him at a store he acted like he didnt know me. come to find out that the women he was with is his wife and he just got a place with her. He later called me and said that he loves me and doesnt want to loose what we have. I told him that I do not mess w/ married men and that what we had was a lie to begin with and that i now look cheap ..Oh yea i just found out that I am haveing his baby! should i let her know or not?
2006-08-28 17:12:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel so bad for you, i hate guys like that, i think you should tell him, because your baby needs to know its daddy, despite what your situation is, its gonna be tough though,, i feel for you,,, guys are as$hole$,,,,
you should let his wife know to, she deserves to know what her husband has been doing behind her back, cuz he will most likely cheat again, i cant believe his family was cool about it,, that's fcuked up
2006-08-28 17:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey it sounds like your having a tough time. This would be hard to do but i all reality girls need to stick together. I thinkn that you should go ahead and tell her I mean wouldnt you want to know if your guy was messing around on you and that yall were married. I would. Go ahead and tell her ask to see her alone and do it professionl and tell her that your had no idea that he was married and tell her everything it is only right and I think after that you will feel better. Besides if he really loved you than he would not of done this to you and he obviously has no respect for you or his wife. It is sad how some guys treat us but face it your better off.
2006-08-28 17:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by rachel s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he is married, why would his mom let you stay at her house? Sounds like this guy is a freak and his family is messed up too. I would drop him ASAP and move on. As for the baby, that is your choice. I would let him know for financial reasons, but I would stay clear of him and not fall for any sob stories he may give you. Son of a ***** to do that to you!! Good luck!
2006-08-28 18:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that's a tough spot to be in.
Sadly, it sounds like she's going to find out one way or another if you're carrying his child. It might be time for the two of you (you and he) to have a grown up talk. He's going to have to explain to her somehow where all his money is going once the baby is born...
Don't tell her just to ruin their marriage, though, ok? That's just spiteful
2006-08-28 17:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by ceekryt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumping that dude was great. Having his baby is another thing. If you take him back, you stand a chance of him still being unfaithful.
Get the child-support and give him his visitation rights to his child and keep it at bay.
2006-08-28 17:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what I would do, if I was you...I think I would tell him about the baby...I'd also tell him, he's got no place in the babys life...unless his wife knows about it...then it's ALL on him...as for you..move on..he's not worth anything...
2006-08-28 17:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you need to tell her. Let's face it, the only reason you want to tell her is to try and hurt this cheater. Just focus on this child, that should be your number one priority right now.
2006-08-28 17:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he was an X 4 a reason...just 4get about him. Leave him alone and go about ur business
2006-08-28 17:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Inquizitiv1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can tell him and her in the court
and you can and should sue him for telling you a big lie
i hope you will take an abortion asap and take money or
whatever you can take from him.
he deserves it
his marriage deserves to be destroyed
2006-08-28 17:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by happy-angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her know and use her as a witness so you can get child support. Then get a GOOD man.
2006-08-28 17:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋