Well I am 20 weeks pregnant and I broke up with the babys father. Well I was wondering does the babys father have any rights to it since we are not married. I am wanting to give it my last name, can I do this?
2006-08-28 17:09:06 · 21 answers · asked by spoiledmogurl04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
the father of my baby can barely take care of his 2 he has. The guy I am with said if we get married and the baby knows him as father he would adopt it and give the baby his last name.
2006-08-28 17:22:14 · update #1
you can give the baby which ever last name you want it to have.
although, if you give the baby his last name, then you can have him pay child support if you'ld like. i have more, but im not sure how to word it. like is he a good enough guy that deserves to bring an offspring into this world? does he want to be part of his childs life? is he willing to put forth effort in the raising? if hes not, then i wouldnt even bother giving the child his last name, personally.
2006-08-28 17:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by ooopinkflamingooo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Whether you are with the baby's father or not does not change the fact that he is that baby's father. He has rights to the child, same as you do, unless a judge says otherwise.
2. I had three children when I was single. They all carry my last name. I didn't have to get any special permission to give them my name.
3. In order for another man to adopt the baby, the father would have to either give up his parental rights or have them taken away from him. It is not something that will be easy to do if the baby's father wants to keep his rights.
2006-08-29 00:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he signs the birth certificate, he is the biological father and as long as he can prove that via a DNA test, he has rights. You can give your child your last name since you are not married, but the father does have rights and can take you to court for visitations and custody. WIth those rights also come responsibilities--he can be sued by you for child support. The only way he has NO rights is to sign those rights away in court. It took 2 of your to make this child--you are BOTH his parents.
You can pretend that your child doesn' t have a father, but if somewhere down the line you get married and want your husband to adopt your child and the biological father found out, he can block it.
2006-08-29 00:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have all of the rights right now and until the baby is a little older if you aren't getting along with the father - if it's an on again off again relationship just don't put his name on the birth certificate- he will have to go to court and pay for a blood test to get his rights acknowledged and if he is willing to go the extra mile then you know that he atleast wants to be part of the baby's life and you should allow it - but by not putting his name on the birth certificate you are waving your right for child support---you can give your baby your name but the father will have to pay to get it changed if you do get married-- basically you have to decide if the father is a deadbeat if he's a hardworking guy that will pay any amount to be acknowledged as this babies father then you should rethink your plans - even if you are not together your baby needs to know it's father if he is a good man try to be friends until the baby is born then i bet you will both forget why you weren't getting along in the first place but i will suggest not living together until the baby is 1 year old if you aren't married or you will have a whole knew bunch of reasons to fight and you will both miss out on some really cool things with your baby . .good luck
2006-08-29 00:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by paynesgray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact social services in your state. Unless you acknowledge him as the father I don't believe he has any rights. Be careful though, you never know when you will need him to accept this child. I"m glad you have someone in your life that would be willing to take on such a responsibility. Hang on to that one for dear life.
Your baby has whatever name you put on the birth certificate.
Question though? Why did you start a relationship and have sex with a man that doesn't take care of the two children he already had? Hope you think more carefully when making parenting decisions. You aren't off to a great start, but you can and need to really kick into high gear in making responsible choices from here on out. That's a person you are carrying, you will make or break that child.
Good luck!!
2006-08-29 00:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if the baby's real father is not there to sign the birth certificate and you tell them that you don't know who the father is then yes the baby can have your last name. As far as the guy that you are with right now. You really need to be married if you are going to let him adopt your child. If you do let him adopt and yall split up he will have legal rights. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-29 00:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby's father does have rights, just as much as you do. As far as the babys last name goes, I am pretty sure that you get to chose the last time. If you want it to be the same as yours, then tellthem at the hospital. When you have a baby you have the right to decide who gets to come in and visit you and the baby, so make sure you have the baby named before he shows up. Then there's not much he can do.
2006-08-29 00:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by eatme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes the baby 's father will still have rights to it, BUT if you are not married you can give the baby your last name.
2006-08-29 00:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by CHRISTINAS MOM 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can give your baby your last name. And if you expect child support you will have to give the dads name to get it, after a DNA test is done if you go that route. BUT HERE IS THE THING if your ex pays support or the state finds out who he is and that for fact he is the father then yes he has rights.
2006-08-29 00:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tony L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, a Father always has rights to a child. Unless he signs away his rights. In which case that has to be done through Family Court . You can name you're child what ever you want to . My son has my last name and my daughter has her Father's last name . So it dose not matter what the last name is . Best of luck to you and I hope that you have a happy health baby . :)
2006-08-29 00:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋