Can anyone give me a good reason to continue with life?

Question

I used to think that life would be exciting and full of adventure. But now, I am completely disillusioned. I have few friends ( no close ones ), and worst of all, no lover. What's the use when you are so alone?

And please don't tell me to get out of the house more, join clubs, etc. I have tried these things and nothing seems to work. Few people seem interested in me. I don't know the reason for that, but that's just the way it is.

Answer 1

I'm in my forties and have never been married even though I am considered very attractive, so go figure! Yeah, life is disappointing but I think just about everyone walking on this space rock would say the same thing, even the very wealthy. The answer is to realize that your purpose is to have a personal relationship with God who will guide you and give you so much wisdom and love. One tidbit of wisdom I have been given is to realize that disappointments are a fact of life but discouragement is a CHOICE. Maybe you don't have the strength in you to stop being discouraged but God will give you that strength without any effort on your part. I have asked Him for strength almost everyday since becoming a Christian 27 years ago and it always blows me away how I can suddenly feel so different just because I prayed for that strength.
I'll be praying for you bud. Hang in there. Love, Dianne

Answer 2

Wow, You know when I hear things like this...it hurts only because, you see yourself as not having anything to live for. Look in the mirror and if by chance you see yourself standing there....that's your reason for living. Life is what you make, and no one can live it for you. Now if you have those few friends, which you are talking about...they should be telling you this. Now the issue with the lover....Right now, you don't need a lover, because sweetheart you don't even love yourself. You need to first get you together and love you before you can start loving someone else. You are never alone and it will take time for you to see that. The people on here that answers in a positive approach are your new found friends...Your life is worth living, so many people get there taking away from them daily, now you take a look in the mirror and find out who's important, and if by chance you do not cast a reflection....don't respond back to me. (SMILE)

Answer 3

Can you think of all the hurt you will bring to those around you if you don't continue living? This is a sort of self-depreciating question. Your other questions are up beat and interesting, I don't know why others would not find you interesting. I like the $20 question you got some good response to that, and your singles and dating questions are great, I enjoy reading your responses:-)
I know people have already mentioned volunteering, it really is a worthwhile activity. Just when one I am feeling sorry for myself or depressed I go spend time at the disabled children's orphanage ( I live out of the USA, that's a whole other story)
Now just my humble opinion, I too, used to think life was supposed to exciting at all times and brimming with adventure, well here's what I have learned you have to make life what you want. Seek and you shall find.

Answer 4

Listen. First, stop feeling bad for yourself. We have all felt lonely, we have all felt hopeless.

A man I graduated with just took his life one week ago tomorrow. He wasn't the greatest person in the world but it had a great effect on many people. I literally spent the day on the phone consoling friends as they learned of the news. You may feel alone but you have had an effect on more people than you know.
Don't live your life for friends or a lover live your life for YOU!
Get involved in things where you will meet people. volunteer and be selfless, go to a soup kitchen and help serve lunch on Saturday. Help organize a charity event or a cancer walk, visit people in a nursing home. Do not be selfish and take your own life. Doing these things will make you feel like a productive part of society and will make you feel important again. Because you are important. Along the way you may make some friends too.

Contact the suicide hotline also.

You are much more important and necessary in the world than you can comprehend, and someone, some where is thinking of you right now.

Be Strong.

Answer 5

You probably suffer from severe depression. I went thru that situation.You really need to get help, find out what makes you feel this way. There is help, some medication for a short time only, some good conversation with specialists and as soon as you get up your selfesteem, you'll feel much better. Don't give up on yourself. I don't know how old you are, because certain ages bring certain emotional problems everyone has to go thru. Some can deal with it better than others. Do something to socialize with other people. Take some classes of your interest and you will find people with the same intersts and you will find friends. I found out that life is worth living when I worked with the elderly. I managed a assisted living home, helping old people to enjoy the last years of their lifes. They told me what makes life worth living. Life has a totally different meaning for me since. I enjoy every day as it comes.. Don't look back and don't worry what tomorrow brings. Just today is important If you make another person happy every day you will be happy too. Nothing is more satisfying then to see a persom smiling because you made them happy. You accomplished something. You are worth it, you are a wonderful person. You will feel good about yourself and you want to live.

Answer 6

Don't let that stop you from living your life. You may not have a lover or close friends,but that's doesn't mean that you're going to be alone forever.
You were right to think that life is exciting and full of adventure. You know why? Life is an adventure! whatever you maybe going through right now is an adventure.
It may not be exciting but one way or the other you'll learn something from it.
Don't stress too much about it, sooner or later you'll get what you want from life. Just remember that life is full of wonders, the more you wonder, the more answers you get.

Best of lucks!!!

Answer 7

What is your interest?

I hope you find something to read for inspiration, or just listening to a tv show (hopefully inspirational even if it's not your religion).

How about making a list of 10 things you simply must do before you check out.......

1. What kind of love do you want, and you are right to not have one that does not meet your needs!

2. What kind of help can you give..........and receive?

3. What is your best feature?

4. What is your best love.........even if it is from a distance?

5. What kind of day do you like, sunshine or rain? why

6. You are disgusted, and have a right to feel that way..........at times we all feel that way. So what.
That's a reason to stay....just because in a few days it could be better.

7. Add chocolate, yes dark chocolate is to have a good effect on the brain...........and you can add sugar free chocolate.......

8. We are alone at times, but so what...........sometimes it's better than being around those who scream and yell, or hit us!
Yes, I've been there!

Learn to love yourself, and pamper yourself in some way each day. You are worth it!

Answer 8

I'm right there with ya brother. I can't tell you the number of times I've considered suicide, and I have a great wife, 3 great kids, and a wonderful job. I do suffer from depression, and I've gotten help for it and I'm on the meds, but that still doesn't keep me from thinking every now and then that life is just a bunch of crap, so why consider continuing on??

Finally, I had to find something to live for. The only way I was able to do that was to help others. I've done relief work in India and Nepal, I give money away to the causes that I think are worthwhile, and I freely give myself to other people. When I see the job and good that those things do, it gives me something to live for. Find your thing to live for, and life will be great. It won't be perfect, and you'll still have those crazy days in your head, but it will be better.

Answer 9

I had this problem when I was younger. Then I discovered people will only be interested in me if I am interested in myself. As cold as this sounds, making friends and finding dates is a way of selling yourself. If you don't care about the product you are selling, others won't either. Make sure when you go out, even to the grocery store, that you look your best (ie showered, hair combed, freshly washed and ironed clothes, teeth brushed, etc). Try going shopping at a trendy store. Also, don't wear hats that hide your face, and keep your nails neat. Hands are usually what a woman looks at first, then your eyes. After doing this for awhile, you'll notice a dramatic improvement in your attitude towards yourself and others' attitudes towards you. I really hope this helps, because everyone in the world is here for a reason,and we all need you!
Love,
Rivka

Answer 10

I know how you feel.When I was younger,I looked forward to the future.I thought life would be exciting and full of adventure.But now that I'm older,I don't feel that way anymore.
I,too,don't have many friends.And I don't have a relationship with someone special,either.
Life is a struggle for me.I have a mental illness,which takes up all my time and energy,in trying to overcome it.So,even though I don't wanna die,I feel like I am dying.Because I can't control my illness,I can't overcome it.It pretty much controls me,and it keeps me immobilized from having a normal life.
I can't suggest to you,what I think you should do.The way to a good life,is up to you to decide.I would say,though,that if there's anything you've never done,that you've always wanted to do,then do it.Find what makes you happy,and do it.There are good things out there in life.Things you have yet to experience.I hope you find out what makes you happy.And when you do,you'll realize that life does have some good in it.It's just up to you,to decide what that good is.I hope this helps some.

Answer 11

If you don't continue you will NEVER have an exciting life or any adventures! We never know what is right around the corner. You may have already met your soul mate but don't even realize that you have. Even if you can't grasp on to just a little bit of hope for tomorrow, even if there isn't one little thing that you may like, even if you don't have one person in your life that you love or loves you, even if tomorrow doesn't look very appealing........think about it, because tomorrow may bring you everything that you are searching for in your life. That is why you should continue with your life.