she has been abused by her step-dad and she has nightmares about him every night.she is also hight risk because she has a heart problem. now my question is what can i do to help her she is under alot of stress and it is not good for her or the baby.
2006-08-28 16:43:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
not her stepdad's baby she has a boyfreind that is very good for her.
2006-08-28 17:11:42 · update #1
Lots ands lots of prenatal care. Lots prenatal classes and parenting classes. Step-dad is out of here life now, I hope.
2006-09-05 06:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by kathy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will need to be seen and watched more closely by a Dr as she has a heart condition. She may well even need some special help later down the track. As I don't know anything about being pregnant with a heart problem that will be for her and her Dr to work out. but if there is any special needs that is when you step in as far as her being under stress and having nightmares then maybe the baby will distract her from that I would be telling her to talk this over with her Dr as well. All the best for your Daugherty and you as well.
2006-08-28 17:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her into some hobbies that she can use to get out some of her emotions painting - writing - reading the book what to expect when you're expecting- and get her some self-motivation books -let her volunteer at a hospital in the nicu or just visit it so she will understand that the important thing right now is the health of the baby and she will get to spend time around some precious babies that will capture her heart and perhaps make her want to go into the healthcare field as well. just reassure her that no matter what has happened to her in the past that her life is going to get better and full of so much joy when she has this baby-keep up with her dr appointments and ask the dr if there is a local councelor that can help her cope with where her life has brought her this far --she will be OK as long as she knows that you are in her corner no matter what and believe in her take her out for dinner once or twice a week at a place you usually don't go to --go shopping for baby stuff --show her how to celebrate whats happening to her life now so it will take the focus off of the bad that has happened before tell her how beautiful she is often and how smart - build her confidence up with subtle remarks not in depth conversation all of the time send her some flowers just thanking her for being your daughter right now baby your baby she needs it now more than ever. teach her how to be a good mom by reassuring her fears and drowning her in love and understanding during this hard time in her life
good luck you are both in my prayers
2006-08-28 17:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by paynesgray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs counseling. She needs peace and quiet. Set a structured environment for her. Give her some good books to read, on: pregnancy, abuse, child care, etc...so she can help herself. The more she knows and can understand, the better she'll sleep. She may be hurt for a long time. This may have also contributed to her pregnancy, she needed to be "loved" by a male figure. Her step-dad did not, he hurt her, so she searched this in some other male. Very common.
I hope you no longer are in the presence of this abusive person. She needs to be far from the abuser so she can heal and feel safe.
2006-09-04 12:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, don't be offended. If you disagree with my advice, please, just disregard....
But, as a former rape victim, please consider, with your daughter, if it wise to continue this pregnancy. If her health (both mental and physical) are in jeopardy - and she is still only 8 weeks pregnant...give it some thought.
I had an abortion. It was a horrible and difficult decision, but my mental health was very fragile and I was young also. I am not saying abortion is an easy or "good" decision - but - at least for me I feel like it was the best decision I could have made at the time.
I am now married (7 years) and have a daughter and my life is on track...I am not sure if I would be here today if I had made a different decision in the past.
Please, again, I don't want to offend you. If this is against what you believe, just disregard. I am only offering what my experience taught me.
Good luck and you and your daughter will be in my prayers.
2006-08-28 16:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely needs all of the support she can get right now. Being that she has a medical condition, is 16 and is pregnant consulting with her physician would be the first thing to do. She probably needs to be educated on safe sex especially at 16. She has her whole life ahead of her hopefully everything works out...good luck!
2006-09-05 06:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she pregnant because of her stepdad?
either ways i don't think it's ok for a 16 years old to be pregnant, it's going to ruin all her future. think about her education, how long is it going to take her to graduate from high school. do u think she would be able to make more efforts to get higher education ( at least 2 years in college) to make a decent living for her and her kid.
i'm sorry but to get a baby at 16 kind of limits her future, most of them end up with 2 minimum wage jobs to support themselves and their child. and as the child is growing up he/she won't be proprely supervised since the mom is busy working, and dads this age are almost never around all the way. therefore they end up with all kind of addictions, bad behavior, and poor education.
if she's pregnant because of her stepdad, report him.
I'm totally against abortion koz i see it as killing somebody. but in ur daughter's case it's a necessity because if she keeps the baby it would ruin her life, her baby's, urs.
2006-08-28 16:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs therapy. being able to talk to a professional will not only help her overcome the nightmare due to the abuse but also will help her find constructive ways to deal with the stress. Please get her the help that she needs. Not just for her sake but for her baby's too. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-28 16:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m 16 too and if it was me in ur daughters place i wud want u to be there for me always by my side and it will be a social embarssment u need to take an immediate action take her to the doctor please n do whatever is necessary and please i want that so called step-dad to be punished he doesnt have a heart i want to know what happens please it hurts as if ur daughter were my own sister do anything but get her out of it she is much mare important than the baby i know it sound cruel but trust me no 16yr old wud like that condition wether it is their fault or not take care and do whats best i'l pray for u
2006-08-28 17:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have had 16 yrs to protect & teach your daughter. How could you let her be abused by any one???? Maybe the boyfriend and father of her baby will take better care of her.
2006-09-04 12:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by CJD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋