does everything in their power to discredit you in public? And then complains when you defend yourself, (without resorting to violence)?
How would you handle this person?
All beliefs please answer.
2006-08-28 16:41:15 · 14 answers · asked by MamaBear 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I choose to remain silent. I didn't defend myself. I was recently in a situation like this and my silence has spoken volumes. The only one behaving in a manner that is less than honorable is the other person.
Blessings )O(
2006-08-28 16:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I bet you're one of those psychotic neo-cons, deliberately misquoting and slandering the entire American family who is protesting the insanity of the Bush administration. If so, your irrational tactics are even more entertaining than they are irritating.
On the other hand if you really have such a problem, I would suggest making jokes about the person doing it. Wouldn't you rather be the target of someone like that than be someone like that? In other words, don't let it get to you. Getting to you is what they want. Being shrugged off as funny is so much what they don't want, they might even stop.
2006-08-29 00:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct would be to call Vito in.
Next, I would probably laugh at that person a lot and hold an attitude that makes them look like a funny little child with their little whah-whah games. I would also start keeping notes - a journal of indiscretions, names, dates, quotes, exact actions. I would probably want to sit this person down and have a very stern conversation with them letting them know exactly what they are doing and what I was going to do about it, i.e. sue them for slander, make their life a living hell, begin to discredit everything they say, get them fired, etc. Whatever works for you in the situation (of course, it doesn't have to be so negative.) This person is taking advantage of your relative silence. From now on, call them on everything. Ask them to elaborate. Ask them where they got their info Eventually, you will make them look stupid enough they will back down.
It's hard to give good advice without knowing the exact circumstances, but I would take a strong approach. Don't keep letting them bully you and you will no longer be bullied.
2006-08-28 23:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut off all contact with this person. I wouldn't care if it was a family member or a friend. I would not be around a person who was going to do this all the time. What kind of friend would do that to another friend? If I have talked to the privately about it and they continue to do it then I wouldn't be around them any more. If it was my sister then I would not be at family functions unless I knew that she wasn't going to be there. I would go see family on my time so I don't loose touch with anyone but I would make sure they are not there. If it was a co-worker I would talk to my boss and explain the situation. I would ask for a transfer if it was possible or tell the boss you can't work like that.
2006-08-28 23:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mawyemsekhmet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hit a guy ones for slandering my familly, and i ended up having to pay for a lawer and a settelment, The Canadinan judge didn't care what he said,because of the soo called "freedom of speach", But what about honour and respect? it's not even considered in north america. On the other hand, In muslim countries you have the right to defend your honour, at least judges will here ur plea, and these things gets taken very seriously. Slandering is a sort of provocation and assault.
From my experience, i can tell u if you live in north america, to either hire a crackhead to do it for u. Or get close to him/her, get his email passwords, copy his bank account cards, copy his phone sim card, and clean him out in a day. He'll be in soo much trouble, he'll forget about everything else.
Or a peacefull and a long process solution, where the judge and everyone will look at u funny, is to sew him. But i worn u, it's going to be long for booth of you u'll have to be in courts the same amount of time he'll will, with nothing at the end. drug dealers and assault cases end up with small fines, and no jail time. Imagine talking dirty!!!
2006-08-29 00:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Omar K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quick call to a lawyer, and the threat of a slander lawsuit usually does the trick.
2006-08-29 00:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by ravencadwell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"kill them" with kindness. Love your enemy as your friend. Treat others as you would have them treat you.
One idea springs to mind, when the person says rude things about you in public, say something NICE about them right back in front of everybody. If you keep that up, sooner or later this person will just look like a fool to everybody. Everytime this person tries to dicredit you in public, people will just roll their eyes.
God Bless You, my friend.
2006-08-28 23:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...
but I can relate. I am a scientist, and fundamentalists are always deliberately misquoting science, slandering science, and they do everything they can to discredit science (though they're not good at it, thankfully).
so I understand your frustration.
2006-08-28 23:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you correct them in public!and stay away from them!oh well if they complain for you defending yourself,you have the right to!always take up for yourself and your family if you are in the right!
2006-08-28 23:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by cyndi b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have nothing to do with him. Break off all connections. You can also take out a protective order that will keep him away.
2006-08-28 23:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋