Hi! I'm fourteen and a freshman in highschool in Los Angeles. I was wondering about surgery. I am having surgery on Sept.7 which is during the high school school scheldule and I will be missing about a week or two from school.
I know this is a little weird but I was wondering if I should ask people to come visit me or is it like the person's obligation to come if It tell them.
Shouldn't they ask me at all when and what time if they can come or am i supposed to tell them
This is my first surgery so i don't know the specifics.
I know I should focus on somethings other than these stupid details. But when I just think about surgery, I can't so I just focus on this.
I gotta keep on laughing and focusing on these stupid things from crying.
Wish me luck
2006-08-28 16:27:20 · 21 answers · asked by hoondong92 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
If you feel funny asking people to visit you, why not have another close friend do it for you. After your surgery, have the friend tell your other friends you had your surgery and would like some company.
Good luck with the surgery!!!!
2006-09-04 15:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to have visitors when you're in the hospital but they sure can make you tired. I would let them know that you would like for them to come visit. I don't think they would feel obligated.
Once I had so many visitors that I actually asked the nurse to put a "no visitors" sign on my door. Then everyone got upset because they thought I had a turn for the worse. I just wanted to take a nap.
Try not to worry too much. I've been through 10 surgeries in my life, including having a lung removed. I'm an old nannie now. There's lots of hope for you.
Keep up positive thoughts. Good luck!
2006-08-28 17:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish you the best of luck on your surgery especially at such a young age. As for you ? I wouldn't suggest asking people if they are going to come and see you, that is something that they need to do from there heart, even if they don't show maybe a card or some flowers to show there concern would be considerate, a lot of people say that you will see who your friends are when it comes to a situation like this, but not in all cases, a lot of people do not know how to console others or are just weirded out by hospitals so they may not show, but anyone with concerns and or who care about you should at least attempt to send either a card or flowers, even a phone call to show that you are in there thoughts and prayers, but I would not suggest asking people if they are going to come and visit unless they are a close personal friend or family member. Good luck and you will be in my prayers.
2006-09-05 05:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by bouty07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having any kind of surgery is upsetting, no matter how minor. I do not know, of course, if this is minor or major surgery, but if you are concentrating on visitors, that is good and will take your mind off of your anxiety
2006-08-28 16:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by gina/tryingtolearn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off good luck! Secondly Iv'e been in your shoes eight times so far. Each time was scary.. Anyway it would be great to have some friends come over. I did that with my first surgery, but don't let your aunt scare them away when they show up and the onew that can't get a ride home think about something to do or else your aunt and your and your best friend might be reading through Teen Mag and yout aunt saying, "You know boys only want one thing... and then starts the sex talk..." Not a good idea when you are on heavy pain killers!
2006-08-28 16:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by bugsbunnylookalike2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, all my best to you. Surgery is scary, and it is important to express your fear about it, especially with the doctor in charge of your care. It is also very important to let him know if you are allergic to anything; If you will be getting a medication you have never had, like morphine for pain, ask the doctor to sample it in his office prior to the surgery in case you are allergic. And speak to the anesthetist about sedation. I know first hand, as a northern European, that anesthesia goes either a very long way on a little, or else it takes a lot to get the job done. No inbetween. Now, as for your question, let people know where you will be and ask them to call before they come in case you aren't feeling up to visitors, and so they don't waste their time. And find out what the official visiting hours are before you go in. And remember, you will probably have another paitent in the room as well, so make sure your friends are considerate of them as well. The tendency is to want to party, but please, take it easy and heal right the first time.
2006-09-05 13:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by 19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, keep yourself calm. Surgery isnt so bad. Take it from one person who has had 30 of em! :) Just remember that most people dont know how to react when you tell them you are having surgery. They might think that it is better to leave you alone to rest, or they might even be afraid to see you in pain. But you NEED support and it is your job to let your friends know. Let them know that you need them to be there for you in some way during this time. Give them your hospital phone number and room number and the hours of visiting and let them decide if they want to come by. If they are your friends, they will come and visit you.
2006-08-31 14:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by disabledgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to have your friends come and see you after surgery, and you can certainly ask them. That won't obligate them to come, but they can if they want to.
Right now you don't know how you'll be feeling after surgery, and when you'll feel good enough to enjoy visitors. So I would ask people to call me first, before they came. The hospital probably has visiting hours, and you can find out what they are by calling the main information desk.
Good luck with your surgery!
2006-08-28 16:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by parachute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck with your surgery, I am sure you will do well. It is perfectly OK to ask your friends to visit. The first day you will probably not want friends to visit, because, most likely , you will sleep most of the time. Try to think of surgery as fixing the problem you have.
2006-09-05 16:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are very nervous about the surgery. if they ask the day of surgery you wont care whether anyone visits are not depending on what type of anethsia you have etc they will come but also keep in mind some wont and its not because they don't want to see you but there are people who are quite skiddish about visiting people in the hospital. good luck let us know how you do
2006-09-05 11:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋