This guy and I have been flirting for a while. One day after talking for three hours straight on the phone he paused and finally said you are very very pretty, have a lot going for you and could have any guy you want. I told him that I needed to be by myself and figure out why I stayed so long in a bad relationship. Afterwords everyone told me he probably felt rejected and took it personally so I called him and let him know that I thought he was tall dark and handsome, the kind of guy I fall for that I know gets me in trouble. He started talking about how people chose based on some emotional need...he sounded so different and distant but continued to talk about people and their different traits. He told me I needed to go out more and meet people....I felt sort of embarrased I even told him how I felt and I felt rejected big-time. Was he just playing me the whole time?
2006-08-28 16:12:25 · 15 answers · asked by j t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Afterwords everyone told me he probably felt rejected and took it personally so I called him and let him know that I thought he was tall dark and handsome, the kind of guy I fall for that I know gets me in trouble"--you shouldn't have done that. You should have given it sometime. You messed up from the beginning, and that wasn't the right way to fix it. I think that he really liked you. He probably thought you were playing him.
2006-08-28 16:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Samster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't playing you, you sent him mixed messages. You are saying on one hand "You're a nice guy, but" and on the other hand, "I want you in my life". How is he going to date you? Well, let me just say that it sounds like you just got out of a relationship. Take some time for yourself before you start dating again. Look at WHAT you want in a relationship and realize that the best kind of love happens when you become confident in WHO you are and when you know yourself. Identify those traits and think about where this type of guy would be. If you want a committed relationship a club or a bar is not the place to meet a guy, and in ordinary, everyday life...you might find a wonderful guy just shopping in the grocery store.
2006-08-28 23:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he was playing when he told you those things. I am not quite sure if he was hitting on you or not but guys hate to feel rejected and if he was trying to let you know how he feels he might be pulling back because he might be afraid that you are just saying what he wants to hear. He does not want to look like a fool. If you really like him I wouldn't stress it to much. Try to let this awkward situation fade out and then when you both feel comfortable again, maybe just talk about what you want from this relationship.
2006-08-28 23:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by ny_girl11229 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he was playing you. I think you scared him. As terrible as it sounds, nobody wants to see or hear about anyone else's emotional scars. Next time keep that information to yourself. In fact, do as you told the guy you needed to to do; be by yourself and figure out why you stayed in a bad relationship for so long.
Then, before you start dating again, get rid of the notion that there is some knight in shining armor that is looking for fair madien to rescue and make up for everything some dastardly jerk did to her before. Life doesn't work that way. Heal, then deal, OK?
2006-08-28 23:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have liked you as a friend and when you called him again then he felt you put him on the spot and he was not interested in being in a relationship with you.
2006-08-28 23:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imho Maybe you hurt his feeling by telling him that he's the kind of guy that would get you in trouble. If he truely loves you he wouldn't want that to happen. perhaps he wants you to learn how people are so you could see that he wouldn't get you in trouble. thats My opinion though. Actions speak louder than words :)
2006-08-28 23:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Craig G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno...guys are tricky..they never know what they want and they are as confusing as hell...im not sure what he was thinking..and i dont know if you ever will untril you ask him..nobody knows what he was thinking but him..so im sorry i dont have the magic solution...but i just saw all the other answers were mean and i just wanted to say that im sorry everyone on answers sucks like that...haha..good luck..have a nice day :D
2006-08-28 23:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by kelkel0514 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You told him that you needed time to be alone, I don't understand why you feel rejected by him. It sounds to me like you shot him down first.
2006-08-28 23:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he liked you, something you said freaked him out, now he's not interested.
Don't pursue it, you will just appear desperate.
Count it as a loss, & move on.
But don't take it too personally.
2006-08-28 23:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most likelee yes i hate men who play game it like we do not have filling it take time get over a bad relsonship he need to unstand that
2006-08-28 23:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋