Okay one night went to a party one time with my friend i was dancing wit one guy and we just got in toit and it happened
2006-08-28 16:09:56 · 20 answers · asked by Betty boop 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
"I have something that is difficult to tell you, but it is only responsible of me to discuss it with you. This is very hard to say, so I'm begging you to please be calm and by my advocate in all of this. I am pregnant, and I'm not in love with the father (if that's the case). I need your help, your comfort, and your guidance. I can understand if you want no part of this--it isn't your burden. But I really don't want to do this alone. I am afraid and I need your strength."
I dont know any parent who could be angry at a child who is repentant, afraid and in desperate need of them. Make it clear that you know you've made a bad decision, but instead of dwelling on the wrong done, that you need help in moving forward and doing the right thing.
I don't know your age, and I dont know your situation. If you are a child please consider adoption. I know many girls who had abortions and regret it throughtout adulthood. It is very hard to go through emotionally, and is not easy physically too.
If you are an adult, is there some good man you know who would marry you and make a good husband and father? If not, please consider adoption. I know there are many organizations that would happily take care of you through the pregnancy and place your child into a good family if you so chose.
You are more than welcome to contact me whenever if you need someone to talk to. I know you're going through something very rough. I wish you strength through this! I'm proud of you for doing what is right and going to your parents for help. I'm sure they love you very much and will do what is best for you and your child. :) Best wishes.
2006-08-28 16:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by ikikochan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be a mother. The child growing within you does not deserve to go without, as you can not provide for it without government assistance and even then not that well, simply because you, a child, decided to do a very adult act, sex. Your parents also carry some blame for this situation in the fact that they have allowed you to be in a situation that becoming pregnant was even an option. You need to look up in a phone book, adoption. There are thousands of married couples who can not have a child of their own but would like nothing more than to be a parent. These married couples are able to provide a child not only with the important "things" in life but also with the time that you will not have as you will be completing school and having to work to support this child. You can choose a closed or open adoption and you can even pick put the couple. As for telling your mother, do it soon as you will need a lot of support with this situation. Just tell her, "Mom, I made a mistake and I'm pregnant'. Let her know that you have looked into all your options and that you are looking into adoption. Also, you need to understand that sex outside of marriage is wrong and it is a sin. God created sex to be a very special thing to happen only between a married man and woman. Anything beyond that is sin. You need to realize this because until you deal with this situation, you will be unworthy to stand before your God. To repent is not only to see that you were wrong but also to turn from it and not repeat the same mistake again. After the child is born and you have placed him or her with a loving married couple, you need to not have sex of any sort again until your wedding night. I know that this is not the PC answer to your question but the truth is not always PC. Good luck.
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2006-08-28 23:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you first? But you do need support so sit down with the one you think that will take it best so they can be with you to tell the second parent. It might also help to have a friend there or even the father of the baby. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-28 23:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by blueseawale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you ready to be responsible for someone else? When you have some answers, sit them down together and tell them as calmly as you can. They're going to ask you ALOT of questions but try to be calm. You're not the first nor the last to find yourself in this situation. But I REALLY want you to realize that you will be responsible FOR someone else, and not just when it's convenient for you.
2006-08-28 23:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by PleiadesMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would bring a friend for support incase they don't take it well. Sit them down, tell them the news, and what your plans are. Being calm and mature will help.
Do not be suprised if they don't take it too well at first. As it becomes more real, and they realize it's their grandchild, most parents come around just fine.
2006-08-28 23:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tina K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow well i hope u still talk to the guy that got u pregnant and yes tell your parents they can help with everything that will happen to your body and with the baby once he/she is born next when u r getting all into it stop and get a condom 1 night a pleasure can give you a lifetime of pain
2006-08-28 23:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by sassyladytee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I said "Mom just to let you know i am going to Planned Parenthood tomarrow to get a pregnancy test done. Then let her know the next day. This will give her a pre warning and she may tell your father so you don't have to. That is the hard part...the dad. Good Luck- YOu can do it i promise
2006-08-28 23:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by kari 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i went threw this when i was 18. i was so scared to tell my mom. i didnt know how she would react but once i told her i felt so much better. she was upset at first but now she loves my daughter more than anything and i'm sure your parents will too. everything will be okay
2006-08-28 23:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg ummmmmmmm how old are you?if they truly love you they should forgive you and try to support you as best as can.tell the guy number 1.and if you dont tell your parents im sure theyll find out one way or another when your stomachs another continent...lol just break it to them slowly and good luck1ill be praying for you.
2006-08-28 23:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you know for sure? Go to Planned Parenthood and they will give you a free test. You will have to tell them eventually, that is if you do not have a miscarriage. Its best to tell them
2006-08-28 23:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by clovischik2001@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋