Reccently I have found out about my brother's ongoing abuse (if you have payed attention, you will know.) Yes, my mother knows - she hasn't done anything to my father yet - not even confronted him. I am 17, my brother is 16. I spied his journal (I know I know) and I read the last entry (ok, so a couple more aswell), and he's thinking about running away because Mom's done nothing to stop it. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-08-28 15:55:26 · 20 answers · asked by I think... 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't wait just tell a teacher at school you have a problem at home and they will get you and your brother the help you need . its not your fault our brothers fault it is your dads and your mothers fault your mother knows whats going on but will not say any thing because she is afraid of losing her family. but your broher is someone you will allways have to help you.take the time to help him now .his life is worth it saving and so is your
2006-08-28 18:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by CHAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you and your brother need to talk to your mom, not in an invasive, attacking way but more of a concerned way. Tell her you love her and cant stand to see her hurting. Tell her when she is hurting its hurting you as well. That you are scared for her and you think she needs some help. Oh yeah don't let on that you read his journal, but do tell her that you cant sit by and watch her be hurt continually because its killing your family.
2006-08-28 16:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be an adult to report abuse. you can call a social worker and ask for advise or help with the situation if it's that bad. They will take it more serious if you could find a way to talk in person, if not then still call. your brother must be willing to do this as well. good luck
2006-08-28 16:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur Mom and explain what is going on .and if that doesn't work than tell the police or ur counselor and they will look into the abuse,don't let ur dad get away with it,My dad and mom beat the Hell out of me when I was only 15 years old because I told them that I was in love with my bf.back in the 60s.I have since forgave them.
2006-08-28 16:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother ! Make her tell your father to STOP. You should also talk to your brother so he doesn't feel like he is so alone. There is strength in numbers together talk to your mother then get her to stand up with you two against your father. Make him understand that his abuse is hurting the entire family .
2006-08-28 16:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by chemicalCourtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom if she doesnt help you have 2 options
1)go to authorieties
or
2) both you and your brother get jobs and rent an apartment together spliting all the exspences
either way get someone(a professional to talk to your brother and help him sort out his feelings about it and help him deal (btw those who are abused and dont get help and some1 2 talk 2 often grow up to be abusers)
best of luck to you n your family and the situation
2006-08-28 16:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by lilmommiNeosha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait? Is your dad is abusing him? If so, I am so sorry for your entire family. You brother does not deserve this at all. I think that he needs someone to talk to about all of this...maybe a therapist? Best of luck and he'll be in my prayers.
2006-08-28 15:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your brother and first tell him your sorry for snooping where you knew you didn't belong but tell him, you could tell something was going on and you were just tring to help. Let him know you are on his side and you will stand behind him know matter what he decides to do, but also let him know you will not stand for him being hurt no longer. Try to convince him to let someone else know about what is going on.. Start by telling someone in your family who you think will help. That will probably be an easier fist step for him. From there take it to an outside help. Keep telling him you are on his side no matter how angery he gets, let him know you will stand by him.. look in your phone book, there are hotline for help, try to get him to call one, if he doesn't you call and let someome know your brother is being hurt. Abuse don't stop unless you put a stop to it.. believe me I got first hand experience, my father abused me (stop it before it goes to far).... If hes to affraid to help himself, help him.... He will be mad at you for snooping but he will thank you for helping.. It's going to be a long hard,mean, road but stand by him no matter what.. He will need to know someone will always be there for him..
2006-08-28 16:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local DCF. Department of Children and Families. You have to be able to show them proof. Its going to be hard but you have to do it. You cant let your brother run away. Good luck
2006-08-28 16:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront mother and if she still won't do anything. Go to the authorities. ABUSE should NOT be tolerated.
2006-08-28 15:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by sad001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋