Recently my ex and I (broke up about 3 months ago) tried working things out and have been seeing each other. Sometimes he gets mad, and says things that are mean and hurtful. Sometimes it feels as though he is mocking me, but afterwards he always apologizes and says he just lost his temper. He has never been physically abusive. It seems like sometimes he just snaps over the smallest things. Is this verbal/emotional abuse?
2006-08-28 15:50:40 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, If you love someone/care about them you do not make them feel the way he is making you feel. If you are mature you can control your mouth a keep from hurting those you care about.
2006-08-28 15:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse would be where he calls you names and cuts you down, making you feel like you are worthless. Things like telling you that you couldn't do things without him, etc. There are so many things that can be classed as emotional abuse. It doesn't matter if he has been physically abusive or not, even name calling is a form of abuse. If he's doing these things, then I would let him go because it's not worth him ruining your self esteem and making you feel that way. Trust me, i've been through emotional abuse and it can totally ruin your confidence if you let it go on too long. And my husband was the same way..he snapped over the smallest things. And then he would appologize. Just take my advice..if the way he treats you is hurting you, it's time to let go and move on. There's someone out there that would treat you so much better. Hope my advice helps.
2006-08-28 15:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not emmtional abuse is much much more than that examples are incessant belitling , humiliating that victim , psycologiacally "playing gamnes with thier emtions ,
. controlling behavior . excessive anger over petty things yes you did mention that so it is a early warning sign . Not alowing you to speak at all , this is done many ways by cutting you of in a sentace . talking over you walking away making noise when you speak . put odenw insulting you ,Telling yo that you are lying when you are not thease are just some
Constantly being on the phone so you cannot speak . the telephone is one of a controll freak's weapons
Being deceptive and manipulating oyu tying ot gain your sympaty . I call the the broken wing game . a person will act hurt or in some way in need of friendship and well meanining people wil help the internet makes this easy .
I recently dealt with what was staring tobecome a huge train wreak and I had a huge red flag so I ended the problem
It is not fun or easy the person will try to run it around and make you the victim .
But you are in the begining stages of it get out as fast as you can no exuses leave the SOB before it becoems abuse as those behaviors you mention are early warning signs of it . . for you own good . get out of that reltionship ASAP . is has all the makings of escalanting into violence .
hey I might get mad at the games soem women play but no one deserves abuse . oh that is why I get mad .
take care of your self and best of luck . thre are alot of quality men out ther looking for a good woman .
Best of luck
.He is harrasssing you and you need to stop it .
you tow are just not good for each oterbit is time to end this disaster .
2006-09-01 14:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by crps_1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the last answer. You both need to give it up. And yeah , it sounds like it is emotional abouse. Life is too short to stay with someone who doesnt make you happy and feel secure and good 3/4 of the time. There will be some bad times, but when the bad outweigh the good, it is time to leave....
2006-08-28 15:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by kayro3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what he is saying hurts you and makes you feel low then yes it is. Maybe what you should do instead of seeing eachother during your breakup is not see eachother. It will give you time to see how you feel without him, and see how much better things could be or it can make him see how bad he was treating you, and maybe he will change. But usually if a person has a temper like that they wont change. My advise, you should find a man who makes you feel like a queen, not a piece of dirt.
2006-08-28 15:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by ny_girl11229 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a form of emotional abuse. Also if he snaps and calls you names, it's because he does not respect himself and more importantly he doesn't respect you. Please know that you are worth so much more than what he is given you. Know that Emotional Abuse is sooooo much more damaging that Physical Abuse(not saying one is better than the other). Bruises go away words stick in your head forever. This is his **** not yours, get out of the relationship before his words turn into fist.
2006-08-28 16:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by fire84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it certainly appears that way. It sounds as if he has trouble keeping his temper in check. I don't believe that saying sorry afterward is enough. But, you are the best judge to decide if the relationship is worth pursuing.
2006-08-28 15:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someon says something that is hurtfull that is verbal abuse even if he says he is sorry. it is better to just leave him if he treats you that way. just because hedoes not hit you does not men his is not hurting you. If he is emotional abusing you that would be making you feel bad about yourself.however, emotional and verbal abuse generally go hand in hand.
2006-08-28 15:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by amanda [loves joseph jonas]™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is and you need to tell him that if he continues that you are not willing to work on the relationship. Under no circumstances are you going to take it any more. If he continues then you can at least say that you tried. You don't deserve to be treated like that by anyone especially someone who says that they love you. Good luck.
2006-08-28 15:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. Even when people fight, they should never resort to mocking. This shows that he needs to put you down in order to bring himself up, and it is emotional abuse. This can lead to physical abuse. Get out.
2006-08-28 15:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋