2-year old daughter with food allergies...suggestions for handling b-day parties?

Question

My 2 year old daughter is allergic to foods with milk, egg and peanut. She loves to try new foods, and has loved eating the allergy free cake I have made for her. However, she has several nieces/nephews who will have/had birthday parties with cake/ice cream that she cannot eat. She recently went to a party where they had ice cream cake and she cried so bad because she couldn't eat any. Do I provide her own cake for every party or keep her home for every party until she understands more? Any support groups recommended for a very bummed out mom? :-(

Answer 1

This is a tough one. I know myself as a parent I would be more than willing to have something that your child could eat but not everyone will be like that. I would explain to the parent of the child that is having the birthday party that your child has food allergies and explain the situation and would it be ok if you brought something that your child could eat. One thing that might help for your child is to possibly ask if the cake could be cut out of sight so your child wasnt so aware that they were having something else.

My daughter was in class with several children that had peanut allergies and the whole class has been wonderful making sure those children are accomadated.

Answer 2

First of all you can't make her feel like she's an total outcast. You have to let her go to parties. You already have the right answer to take your own cake but you will have to watch her like a hawk that she doesn't eat anything else that she is allergic to at least until she is old enough to understand on her own what she can and can not have. My son is 3 and he can't have any dairy although he can have cake just not ice cream cake. If they are having ice cream cake I go to the bakery and get him and the birthday child really cute cupcakes. If I get him and the birthday child the same thing he feels like he is just as special. The other that he is allergic to is latex I have to watch him with the balloons. I have to make sure to have a mylar balloon for him.

Answer 3

As a mom I would provide my own, make her a special cupcake for each party (don't even let HER know you have it) that way she doesn't feel left out and you have kept her happy and safe at the same time. It's easy to explain to the parent hosting and you will get lots of support.

I would even ask them to take the cupcake and have THEM present it to your daughter saying "I know you need a special cake so this is just for you" that will help make your daughter aware that she needs something different while still being included. (helps with later down the line too when she says, well I ate cake at so and so's party...)

I bet if you look on the yahoo groups you will find some wonderful mom's to talk to and support you!

Wishing you and your daughter the best.

Answer 4

take a slice of cake that she can eat. Ask what food is too be served and if there is only a couple of things she can eat ask if you can bring a couple of things for her to share with the other kids

Answer 5

how is she allergic?
is there something the doctor can prescibe for her to take for temporary outings such as birthday parties?
sometimes if they had allergies to something when they were younger they grow out of them ...
my son couldnt have milk products for about the first year and a half... but grew out of it
if it is more serious then you will just have to explain this too her and teach her to be selective of what she eats... soon enough she will understand why... it wont be long

Answer 6

Instead of taking maybe one cupcake she can eat. Take a few or a small cake. This way she doesn't feel different.

Answer 7

Have you tried checking around the internet? There might be some sites that have similar situations. There are a lot of kids with those type of allergies.

I'd google if I were you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

ask the doctor maybe she can get on something to help her eat these foods good luck